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I bought a beachy purse and have been giving the two moms most of the same things as my bm and moh... barefoot jewelry, pashminas, everything like that. I also thought I would give the dads larger bubba kegs and bucket hats saying "father of the bride" and so on.

Here is my dilemma. His parents are extremely supportive and helping us with things. They are wonderful. My parents are sort of there, completely unsupportive and causing some drama. But they are coming (apparently). And they ARE my parents.

I really want to do something nice for FI's mom, to say thank you, but I really do not want to offend my mom, since everything else is pretty much the same for the gifts. My mom and I have a strained relationship and I do NOT want to make it any worse by something like that.

Does anyone have any ideas? Any at all? I am really stuck here.

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I think engraving it would be a great idea!! Thanks for the thread, i wouldn't have even thought of gifts, but definately something i would like to do!

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Hi Peach...  I would say to go ahead with comparable tangible gifts (the purses say), but then try and arrange something more special for your fiancé's mom, like a mini spa session together, or a special time in the privacy of her room balcony/patio to share some champagne or wine together on the terrace, maybe make a photo album for her... of pics of you & your soon to be hubby (like a storyline of your relationship) and include pictures of his family too... I know my FI's mom complains she never sees the pictures he takes LOL.

 

I know what you're going through only with me it's I always have to watch how I treat things between my mom and my step-mom...I know my mom will just "love" it when I do something special for my step-mom during the week for her b-day LOL.

 

 

 

Originally Posted by Peach View Post

I bought a beachy purse and have been giving the two moms most of the same things as my bm and moh... barefoot jewelry, pashminas, everything like that. I also thought I would give the dads larger bubba kegs and bucket hats saying "father of the bride" and so on.

Here is my dilemma. His parents are extremely supportive and helping us with things. They are wonderful. My parents are sort of there, completely unsupportive and causing some drama. But they are coming (apparently). And they ARE my parents.

I really want to do something nice for FI's mom, to say thank you, but I really do not want to offend my mom, since everything else is pretty much the same for the gifts. My mom and I have a strained relationship and I do NOT want to make it any worse by something like that.

Does anyone have any ideas? Any at all? I am really stuck here.



 

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Thanks for the ideas... maybe go for a more sentimental approach rather than tangible...?
 

Originally Posted by NamasteLotus View Post

Hi Peach...  I would say to go ahead with comparable tangible gifts (the purses say), but then try and arrange something more special for your fiancé's mom, like a mini spa session together, or a special time in the privacy of her room balcony/patio to share some champagne or wine together on the terrace, maybe make a photo album for her... of pics of you & your soon to be hubby (like a storyline of your relationship) and include pictures of his family too... I know my FI's mom complains she never sees the pictures he takes LOL.

 

I know what you're going through only with me it's I always have to watch how I treat things between my mom and my step-mom...I know my mom will just "love" it when I do something special for my step-mom during the week for her b-day LOL.

 

 

 

 



 

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Hi Peach, did you mean me re: sentimental/tangible?  Well, if my mom still can't handle a birthday cake and card for my step-mom (tangible) then it's really her issue, I can't babysit her anymore when she acts like a jealous child over normal behaviour (that she expects me to show my stepdad - she wants it to be only a one way street). ;)  Have a great week!

 

Originally Posted by Peach View Post

Thanks for the ideas... maybe go for a more sentimental approach rather than tangible...? 

 



 

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Sorry you are having such a tough time :(

Parents get weird at big events when there is drama, don't they? and no, it should definitely not be your job to babysit her! 

All will work out. 


 

Originally Posted by NamasteLotus View Post

Hi Peach, did you mean me re: sentimental/tangible?  Well, if my mom still can't handle a birthday cake and card for my step-mom (tangible) then it's really her issue, I can't babysit her anymore when she acts like a jealous child over normal behaviour (that she expects me to show my stepdad - she wants it to be only a one way street). ;)  Have a great week!

 

 



 

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Thanks Peach... kind of used to it sadly LOL... it'll be fine, but yes, big events = more than usual drama LOL ... It's our week and nothing will ruin it :D

Originally Posted by Peach View Post

Sorry you are having such a tough time :(

Parents get weird at big events when there is drama, don't they? and no, it should definitely not be your job to babysit her! 

All will work out. 

 

 



 

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Absolutely! We are in the same boat, and it is awesome to hear such positive attitudes from other brides. Fabulous!
 

Originally Posted by NamasteLotus View Post

Thanks Peach... kind of used to it sadly LOL... it'll be fine, but yes, big events = more than usual drama LOL ... It's our week and nothing will ruin it :D

 



 

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