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#1 TracyK

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    Posted 30 August 2007 - 05:36 PM

    Were they or are they going to be in your wedding? How did you incorporate them in? Did you get them a ring or the family medallion? Just curious what everyone else is doing!

    #2 IrieBride08

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      Posted 30 August 2007 - 05:44 PM

      This was a hard decision for us, but we decided not to include Michael's daughter. She is mentally disabled and wouldn't be able to participate anyway. We plan to celebrate with her and with my two nieces after the wedding at the AHR.

      #3 dragonfly

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        Posted 30 August 2007 - 06:11 PM

        Our children were very important in our day. This day was not only about us but about all of us as a family. Everton's daughter walked her daddy down the isle, then my girls came down the isle next, Liam our son was our little flower boy, and my son Timothy walked me down the isle. We chose to have no other people be part of our wedding, this wedding was about us and our children and no one else. We had dog tags made for all 7 of us, they have our names and b-days on one tag and the other tag says, for the kids, "Love, Pride, & Tenacity", and for Everton and my tags, they say " Deeply in love with my family, Nicole, Kenda, Timothy, Bria, Liam, & Kelly(Everton)". We gave the tags to the children after the wedding in private, to thank them for their love, help, and support. We did not make the kids part of our wedding ceremony other then them standing up or us, our ceremony was about Everton and I and nobody else.
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        #4 Chiquita

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          Posted 30 August 2007 - 06:52 PM

          That is a GREAT family picture Kelly :) Love it!

          #5 MikkiStreak

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            Posted 30 August 2007 - 07:24 PM

            My daughter is 16, so she will be a bridesmaid, but that's about all we've thought of so far. I like the way Kelly did things! Everything I've read keeps saying to bring the kids into the ceremony (like doing a couple presentation to the kids or something to symbolize family unity), but I always hesitate because altho we're a family, I see it like Kelly does---- the ceremony is about the couple joining together.

            I know I want to do something special to signify the 3 of us committing to being a family together, but I don't know what it will be yet... But, like Kelly, I plan to do that privately with the 3 of us, away from the ceremony...

            #6 dragonfly

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              Posted 30 August 2007 - 07:35 PM

              The way I saw it Maria is we were already committed to each other as a family, everything we do in life pretty much is about the kids, so our wedding was for Everton and I. We were marrying each other not our children. The children have our committment to them no matter what happens. Our committment was for one another, committment to your children I don't see as a choice, our marrying one another is a choice, a choice we wanted to say out loud to one another and to our family and friends.

              #7 LGENDEIN

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                Posted 30 August 2007 - 07:57 PM

                I have 3 boys and my husband has 2 girls. The girls walked down with their dad and then we let them be flower girls dropping rose petals down the isle. My younger son was the ring bearer and my two older sons walked me down the isle. We incorporated the sand ceremony which they all loved, because I let them pick out what color sand they wanted. My husband wrote the vows to have some of the ceremony be for just the two of us and then some stating becoming a family. Since we are such a big group (7 total) we just had us as our wedding party. They also helped pick songs for the reception, but mostly we took care of the rest. They all handled it really well.

                #8 *JillD*

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                  Posted 30 August 2007 - 08:21 PM

                  Our daughter hailey is my MOH, she got a promotion when my sister couldn't make it because she's due to have her baby a month before the wedding. Hailey still would have been a BM, but now she is the only one in the wedding party, besides us, and I'm really happy about that. I like that its just us. I think I want to have her read a poem during the ceremony, but haven't talked to FI about it yet, maybe I will just have it be a surprise.

                  #9 IrieBride08

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                    Posted 30 August 2007 - 08:49 PM

                    For us, it was such a tuff decision because Jenae requires so much assistance and we weren't sure how to accomodate her needs overseas. (She can't speak, and needs assistance and close supervision to do everything from feeding to walking.)

                    We would have had to make accomodations to have someone come and assist us with her care. We decided that we'd do our low-key destination thing and then do the full family celebration at home and include her fully. I think it will have more meaning for her at home than away.

                    We've come such a long way as a family and I do want to make sure we celebrate it and give it the reverence it deserves.

                    #10 TracyK

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                      Posted 31 August 2007 - 12:26 AM

                      Originally Posted by MoBride
                      My daughter is 11 years old and from a previous relationship. She has no contact with her biological father so for me, our wedding is about us becoming a family. My daughter and I are a package deal and poor Tim is marrying both of us. He will adopt her after the wedding and we are legally changing her name so we will all have Tim's last name. This is the family I have always wanted for myself and my daughter.
                      So to answer your question, my daughter, Morgan, will be a Jr. Bridesmaid. She is wearing white to match me rather than aqua like the rest of the BM's. She will be part of our sand ceremony. And as a surprise Tim is getting her a ring to give to her during the ceremony after we exchange our rings. I know this is going to make my family cry. If you do the math with my age being 27 and my daughter 11 you can see just how young I was. It was a struggle and against everyone's advice I decided to have my daughter and keep her and I thought we were bound to be just the 2 of us forever like the Gilmore Girls but we found someone to love both of us and be a wonderful husband and father so that will definitely be a huge part of my ceremony.
                      I am in similar shoes. It was just my son and I for almost seven years until I met Tommy. I was actually with Tommy for about a year and half before I let the two of them meet. Had to make sure it was going to be long term before I let any feelings happen between the two. So I need my son to feel very apart of this. It is a very big deal to him, he is getting a Dad.
                      I am pretty sure I am going to have my son and my Dad walk me down the isle. I was originally just wanting my son seeing he has been the "man" of my house, but got the guilt trip from my mom about me being his only daughter. I also really want to do the sand ceremony, I think it is just beautiful. I found these really nice medallions that I want to give to each of the kids. I like the idea of yours Kelly and perhaps doing that part privately. I don't want the whole ceremony to be about the kids but I need to have some for my son. There are just so many great options to choose from.

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