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Glad you enjoyed your shoot. I did mine back in August and loved every minute of it! I would recommend to anyone. The only down side was the price, I spent WAY too much money on the book, wall art piece and photo session. I justified it because of the experience and I know my fiance is going to die when he sees it. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity.
 

Originally Posted by J and G 2012 View Post

And I feel like I still have soooooo much to do!

Hopefully I will get the programs out of the way this weekend.

 

I did my boudoir shoot this weekend, and it was amazing! My cousin who is just starting out in the business took my pics for free! Of the few pictures she let me see, thay look fabulous! can't wait till she is done playing with them!

 

For anyone who is still considering a shoot, I would highly recommend it! I am a pretty shy person and would usually not get "naked" in front of anyone, but it was such a confidence booster! I just lost 60lbs this year and it was great to feel sexy again!



 

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When are you giving it to your FI?

I'm debating between X-mas eve and in Jamaica. I'm positive that he will show all his friends if I give it to him down there, which I am not at all comfortable with, but I think the impact of giving it to him the day of our wedding will be that much greater than for christmas.

 

Originally Posted by mllek1986 View Post

Glad you enjoyed your shoot. I did mine back in August and loved every minute of it! I would recommend to anyone. The only down side was the price, I spent WAY too much money on the book, wall art piece and photo session. I justified it because of the experience and I know my fiance is going to die when he sees it. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity.
 



 



 

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I think its mostly Canadian Brides because we know just how cold January will be in Canada and decided to escape the drastic cold for somewhere much much warmer :)


 

I have had a little bit of wedding drama lately.  When we were first sending invites out my FIs mom and dad wanted to invite so many people that we told them they could invite one set of their friends.  They choose who and I sent an invite.  Well this first set of friends basically told us a week later then were unable to make it.  So FIs mom and dad once again thought they would invite someone else, so I sent an invite to the second set of friends.  I didnt hear anything from them, not a single word, so I assumed they werent coming (we had an RSVP date of July 30).  Last week they decided to call our travel agent and tell that they were going to be coming to our wedding and needed to book travel.  Our travel agent told them our group booking was closed, but they could be added on for a higher price.  They said they would get back to her.  They never did.  Instead, they called my FIs mom and said they were booking through someone else and would be at our wedding.  And since this happened, the first couple decided now they wanted to come too.  I was really upset and mad when my Fis mom told me that these four extra people would be coming and she told them they could still come to the wedding events.  Im just a little bitter and angry that they waited so long.  We are four weeks away from my wedding.  They could have at least said yes they were coming but would be booking their own travel.  I wasnt planning on any extra people coming as we have already giving our final numbers to our wedding coordinator and have basically finished OOT bags with the number of people who had booked by our booking deadline.

 

Do you think it would be rude to tell them they no longer can participate in wedding activities but they are more then welcome to come for the week anyways? I dont even really know these people anyways.  My FI thinks we should tell them they are no longer invited to come.  Whats the appropriate thing to do?

Originally Posted by mllek1986 View Post

Beautiful dress Nikadawn.

 

I just realized that most of us are Canadian brides :)

 

.... and we are doing to the final couple of weeks before all of our weddings eeeeeeeeeek



 

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JayKay.... That's a hard one!!!! It is super close and last minute and I wouldn't even think twice about the OOT Bags, they would not be getting one and the weddding... well, I'm not sure what I would do. I always feel bad about stuff like that and would probably try to get them in for the actual wedding, but anything else probably not. I would be having words with mom about that one too and how upset I was about the whole situation. It's really hard because it's not even your friends, it's your parents... so I dunno.... just gonna be what you want to do and feel comfortable with. Good luck!!! Everything will work out in the end and you'll be getting married!!! YAY!!!!

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Hi JayKay,

That is a tricky situation, I too have a few people who just booked last week that were unexpected and a couple more that I am not sure whether will book or not (who said originally that they were for sure coming). I bought enough items for about 10 extra people for OOT etc just in case this happened. However, I was kind of expecting a serge of ppl last minute as this is what other brides have dealt with.

I fully agree that it is unfair to not give you any warning about this, people just don't seem to understand how much work is put into a DW, however I feel it is our duty as "perfect little brides" to deal with these things as they come and be gracious about it (even though it sucks!), as they say, the wedding isn't always about the bride and groom, it's about your families and friends as well.

So, on that note, this is what I would do if I were you (but everyone is different so do what makes you feel the most comfortable): I would explain my feelings to FI mom (or better yet have him explain it to her) and say that you have already prepared all of these OOT bags etc and do not have time to fuss over last minute attendees, if it bothers her then she can take the time to make the bags for them (and the money if there is no extra supplies). As for the wedding day, if they are making the trip down then I wouldn't cut them out of the wedding activities, it seems harsh to me. I think if they knew they were not welcome at the events that they wouldn't spend the money and come down. I am sure your WC has dealt with a thousand last minute arrivals etc and it would be no problem to fix it on her end. Just think about how awkward it would be if they came down and spent the week with you guys and were uninvited to the wedding... but remember this is just my opinion and you guys should do whatever you think is appropriate. I would just do what needed to be done, speak your mind to FI mom and let it go so you don't stress about it, c'est la vie!

Hope this helps a bit. Sorry again to hear about the stresses, it's never fun.

Originally Posted by JayKay View Post

I think its mostly Canadian Brides because we know just how cold January will be in Canada and decided to escape the drastic cold for somewhere much much warmer :)


 

I have had a little bit of wedding drama lately.  When we were first sending invites out my FIs mom and dad wanted to invite so many people that we told them they could invite one set of their friends.  They choose who and I sent an invite.  Well this first set of friends basically told us a week later then were unable to make it.  So FIs mom and dad once again thought they would invite someone else, so I sent an invite to the second set of friends.  I didnt hear anything from them, not a single word, so I assumed they werent coming (we had an RSVP date of July 30).  Last week they decided to call our travel agent and tell that they were going to be coming to our wedding and needed to book travel.  Our travel agent told them our group booking was closed, but they could be added on for a higher price.  They said they would get back to her.  They never did.  Instead, they called my FIs mom and said they were booking through someone else and would be at our wedding.  And since this happened, the first couple decided now they wanted to come too.  I was really upset and mad when my Fis mom told me that these four extra people would be coming and she told them they could still come to the wedding events.  Im just a little bitter and angry that they waited so long.  We are four weeks away from my wedding.  They could have at least said yes they were coming but would be booking their own travel.  I wasnt planning on any extra people coming as we have already giving our final numbers to our wedding coordinator and have basically finished OOT bags with the number of people who had booked by our booking deadline.

 

Do you think it would be rude to tell them they no longer can participate in wedding activities but they are more then welcome to come for the week anyways? I dont even really know these people anyways.  My FI thinks we should tell them they are no longer invited to come.  Whats the appropriate thing to do?



 



 

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Hi Jaykay,

 

I agree with what the other brides have said. Weddings can bring out the best and worst out of families...sigh. I would say that your FI have a chat with his mom and ask if she is willing to to the Oot bags and pay any additional costs as you guys are tying up all of your last minute details.

I think telling them that they can come on vacation but not to the events itself might hurt alot of feelings. But let your FMIL deal with it as they are her friends and she is the one that would like them there.

 

Good luck!

A-M

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JayKay,

This sucks! DWs are tricky; some people see it as more of a vacation than a wedding, or, they don't understand how much planning goes into the wedding itself! There is such a misconception that DWs are easy, and we all don't plan anything and just show up and get married. I;ve been surprised how much I've heard this, and I;m sure that your FI's mom's friends fall into this group. WIth that said, maybe you are better off to give them the benefit of the doubt. They likely have no idea how much planning you've done, which sucks, but I think you need to include them in all of the wedding-related events. There will be WAY too much drama with your FMIL, which might take years to repair if you don't invite them. I think you'll regret it if you don't give them OOT bags, too. Is it too late to make extras? Anyway you look at it, these people are being thoughtless. WHy didn;t they RSVP like normal people!?

 

Originally Posted by JayKay View Post

I think its mostly Canadian Brides because we know just how cold January will be in Canada and decided to escape the drastic cold for somewhere much much warmer :)


 

I have had a little bit of wedding drama lately.  When we were first sending invites out my FIs mom and dad wanted to invite so many people that we told them they could invite one set of their friends.  They choose who and I sent an invite.  Well this first set of friends basically told us a week later then were unable to make it.  So FIs mom and dad once again thought they would invite someone else, so I sent an invite to the second set of friends.  I didnt hear anything from them, not a single word, so I assumed they werent coming (we had an RSVP date of July 30).  Last week they decided to call our travel agent and tell that they were going to be coming to our wedding and needed to book travel.  Our travel agent told them our group booking was closed, but they could be added on for a higher price.  They said they would get back to her.  They never did.  Instead, they called my FIs mom and said they were booking through someone else and would be at our wedding.  And since this happened, the first couple decided now they wanted to come too.  I was really upset and mad when my Fis mom told me that these four extra people would be coming and she told them they could still come to the wedding events.  Im just a little bitter and angry that they waited so long.  We are four weeks away from my wedding.  They could have at least said yes they were coming but would be booking their own travel.  I wasnt planning on any extra people coming as we have already giving our final numbers to our wedding coordinator and have basically finished OOT bags with the number of people who had booked by our booking deadline.

 

Do you think it would be rude to tell them they no longer can participate in wedding activities but they are more then welcome to come for the week anyways? I dont even really know these people anyways.  My FI thinks we should tell them they are no longer invited to come.  Whats the appropriate thing to do?



 



 



LOVE THIS! Such a fun and unique dress :)

Originally Posted by Nikadawn View Post

Just came back from my first and hopefully only fitting. A little loose on top and they still have to sew in some "enhancers" to fill out the front  little but it should all be done in 2 weeks. Woohoo!

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JayKay - I'm kind of in a similar boat and was just talking about this today with a woman I work with.  Her suggestion was to still allow them to participate in the wedding events but if I want to give them an OOT bag it was at my discretion.  She also suggested that if I do decide to do OOT bags for them that they don't have to be the same as everyone else's.  They should be happy to receive anything you want to give them.  I thought her advice was pretty good so I've decided to still make them OOT bags but only with things that I can find now.  I'm not going to put in a whole lot of extra work but I don't want to exclude them either.

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