Laura - I'm sorry to hear about your dinner with the FIL. It just seems like it's one thing after another for you, you poor thing! I can completely understand why you don't want a big party, and just want a smaller BBQ. When my parents (mainly my father) started asking if we had invited this person and that person, I finally looked at him and said, "If you want these people there, I'm sorry, but you are going to have to pitch in more money, we just can't afford to have YOUR friends at our reception." That was the end of the story. Yes, it might seem mean, but really, I'm sick of bending over backwards for MY wedding!!!
Brandy - I was thinking how you hadn't been involved in these chats!
On another note - yesterday when we were dropping off one of FSS (future step-son)'s friends, after he had stayed over for two nights, his parents were talking about how we are going to have a wonderful time and so on... Then they were talking about how they would love to have a vacation like that with all kinds of friends.... So what does FI do? He says, "Well, you guys should totally come!" Yup, that's what came out of his mouth!!! They asked how much and when they realized how cheap it really was, they wanted the info. So, I am going to have FI just give them our website address and work it that way. I'm surprised it hadn't started before now.... FI just can't stop his mouth from blurting out words!!!