Need to vent about a copycat cousin
Posted 06 February 2010 - 01:22 PM
I should mention that we don't talk to that family -- I am informed about waht she does by my grandma. We haven't talked to them for about 4 years....for many reasons, and we don't have any intention of starting. So over the summer we made small talk on facebook one day when she was trying to add me -- I told her our wedding date was October 2, 2010 which it was before we decided to move it up to June. So, she thinks it's October 2 -- (none of them are invited to our DW, so they have not been informed of the update).
SO....she began dating this guy 5 months ago and NOW THEY ARE ENGAGED!!!! After 5 months....AND they set at date - October 16, 2010 TWO WEEKS AFTER WHEN SHE THINKS MINE IS!!!!!! I wish I could make this stuff up.
I am so annoyed and irritated, even though I know I shouldn't be. She is a copycat, but it just bugs me because while I'm not a bridezilla, and don't even want them a part of my wedding I want to have my time to shine -- She had to go and be level with me, instead of just letting me have my time.
Maybe I sound like a baby, and I probbaly am -- but this is just the LATEST of what she has copied, and it's the biggest and most important one to me.
Okay -- that's all, just needed to vent - what do you guys think? Is she crazy!?
Posted 06 February 2010 - 05:16 PM
Posted 06 February 2010 - 06:18 PM
It's horrible annoying and yep, she's stalkerific.
Posted 06 February 2010 - 06:53 PM
They are not invited - so I won't be telling them any more details. I just think it's CRAZY!! ahhh...
Posted 06 February 2010 - 09:08 PM
Posted 06 February 2010 - 09:43 PM
Posted 07 February 2010 - 12:37 AM
Posted 08 February 2010 - 01:14 AM
It's just sort of sad that she's so unoriginal that she needs to copy your every move, but then again, you must be pretty darn awesome and make some really great decisions in your life that she looks up to you this way -- have you ever had a conversation with her about how this makes you feel? Maybe I am giving her way to much credit, but perhaps she doesn't even realize she's doing this. Just a thought, and maybe then she would be more mindful when she's making plans in her life to be aware of what she's doing (ie. if it's going to be similar to you, maybe that would be enough to make her go a different route).
Hang in there and enjoy YOUR time to shine, regardless of what cousin-dearest says or does....you DESERVE IT!!
Posted 08 February 2010 - 10:40 AM
I have heard that line -- and tell myself that's all it is. We aren't close at all -- we had a family falling out 4 years ago, so I don't talk to them anymore (but they are all close still). So by bringing it up it would cause more family drama that we don't need.
I'm just going to do what the other ladies suggested, and not let her (or the family) find out any details - it will save me the stress of being upset when she copies something else. Also, this has gone wayyy back to when my mom and dad first got married -- and her mom did the same thing to my mom. So I think it's in the genes lol.
But, you're right -- I need to forget about it and focus on My Day!! Thanks!
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