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#1 LadyP

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    Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:27 AM

    I am asking all of these questions because I know that the reason he has not proposed is finances. and I feel that if we got married then some of the small bill would be alliviate. Like my insurance is wonderful and he pays out the A$% for his insurance. If he went on mine it would be money to save.

    I figure we could go to the justice of the peace or elope in St Thomas Honeymoon later. We have been together so long that it seems that nothing is going right because we are fighting finances. I dont care (at this second) about the engagement ring it can come later it just feels like it is time now. That maybe if we got married the the universe will smile on our union and things would get better.

    Am I wrong. Should I say something.

    #2 tvt

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      Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:32 AM

      hmm good question! what if you got a ring now that you two can afford and then later down the road you could upgrade it?

      I would marry Joe with or without the ring, but I have to admit wearing the ring makes it more real, and i catch myself staring at it...

      #3 CourtneyV

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        Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:37 AM

        Ok. Well, based on the poll, I voted for what I'd do. Personally, when I was 18 I was ready to get married. I would have done it ring, or no ring. However, the reason we waited was finances. It's not about the jewelry on your hand, it's about your vows to eachother and what they mean to you.
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        #4 MsShelley

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          Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:37 AM

          I would have definitely married him without a ring.... I would have just gotten a band when we got married if he couln't afford it...

          #5 Heidi

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            Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:38 AM

            ditto on what Tara said!

            And I would DEFINITELY marry Reggie without the ring; but I do love this ring!!!
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            #6 TammyB

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              Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:38 AM

              I love my E-ring and wedding band set. But with that said, I would have married Cain with a gum ball machine ring if that's all we could afford. Just buy a plain wedding band and get married. You can always get the bling when you can afford it more.

              #7 CourtneyV

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                Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:41 AM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by tvt
                I would marry Joe with or without the ring, but I have to admit wearing the ring makes it more real, and i catch myself staring at it...
                Haha, I have to admit - I do that alllllll the time! lol.
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                #8 LadyP

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                  Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:42 AM

                  I thought it was just me. I want to be Lady P and for some reason he want to wait for ring. I dont care. I just feel it is time. I know he does to but MEN (scream) why is PRIDE such a huge thing to them? HSN has wonderful dominiques and I would wear it with pride.

                  #9 Heidi

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                    Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:44 AM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by LadyP
                    I thought it was just me. I want to be Lady P and for some reason he want to wait for ring. I dont care. I just feel it is time. I know he does to but MEN (scream) why is PRIDE such a huge thing to them? HSN has wonderful dominiques and I would wear it with pride.
                    It definitely is a guy thing. I told Reggie I didn't need an engagement ring, but he insisted. Absolutely it's a pride thing with some of them!!!
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                    #10 Sarah

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                      Posted 10 July 2007 - 10:48 AM

                      I'd marry Jeff again in a heartbeat with no ring, in a courthouse by ourselves. When you're with the right person, the "material" stuff shoudn't matter. Getting married shouldn't be about how much money they spend on you, or how much money you spend on your guests, but about celebrating your love, commitment, and starting the rest of your life.

                      Sure, I absolutely LOVE my ring. Jeff went wayyyy overboard in my opinion, but he saved for almost a year to buy my ring and wanted it to be really special. We are fortunate that he was able to do that. Is it necessary? Absolutely not. But, am I glad he did? Heck yeah! I probably stare at my ring at least 5 times a day still, and I've had it for over a year...

                      Funny story, I was really good friends with the girl Jeff dated in his early twenties. They were together for over 4 years and while they talked about getting married, neither of them wanted to commit. His ex used to say that she wouldn't marry him with less than a 2 carat ring, and she was serious. He used to tell her he'd never buy anything larger than 1/2 carat, not matter who he was marrying. The irony is that once we started dating and were together about 4 months, we were talking about getting married and he wouldn't because he had to save up for this huge ring he wanted to get me...I made no demands or requests and ended up with my awesome ring from the guy who said he'd never buy one...

                      OK, sorry that ended up long!




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