MIL Majorly Messed Up Invitations... Help!
Posted 15 September 2009 - 11:50 PM
I'm really frustrated because my new husband and I have had this entire reception hijacked. My family paid for the wedding and the honeymoon, and his family is paying for this at-home reception, hosted on their estate. My husband's family is wealthy, but his stepmother chose a DIY route for these invites. DIY is fine - I did DIY boarding pass invites that looked very professional. However, these DIY invites were thrown together and mailed out without me or my husband ever getting to see them, proof them or have any sort of opinion about them. Typos are very embarassing, and reflect poorly upon us.
It also seems his father and stepmother want to change everything we wanted in order to impress their wealthy peers, which is what makes the poor invitation quality so ironic. The casual beach theme with a BBQ, has been changed to a fall theme (with animal print?) The food, decor and a band were all selected without our input. (The band is playing music from the 70s and 80s, even though most of our guests weren't even born until 1984. They know only six songs from the year 2000 forward.) Best of all, the response I got about the messed up invites was a text message saying that "people will figure out to call our families once they get an offer to make a gyno appt." Like this whole thing was one big joke. Then there was a small throw-away apology for not catching the mistake.
I feel like this was a major mistake. Sloppy and unacceptable. I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I also don't know what etiquette applies here. My mother and close friends are horrified for us, and said they think the best option is to send some sort of correction letter. However, they also think that the person who made the mistake in the first place should be the one to do that. Obviously she won't be doing that, since she was so dismissive about the whole issue. I'm not trying to be a brat, but I feel like we should get to have a little input about the party, and that some effort should be made to get the correct info out to people. Any suggestions? Help!
Posted 16 September 2009 - 12:02 AM
Posted 16 September 2009 - 12:42 AM
Last spring, my mom and I spent days cutting 900 boarding cards by hand, and then attaching 3 cards together to form 300 boarding pass invites. Then I had to do a manual feed on my printer... feeding 300 envelopes one at a time. We laughed at the time and said we would never do it again - and then here we were, assembling and printing and stuffing and sealing for someone who dumped the dirty work off on us and took off for vacation. It's not like I personally have the money or the time to reprint, and then buy additional postage for 300 invites... and I don't think I should have to, since I wasn't the one who messed up in the first place. They had three opportunities to proof what the printer had done - and they missed everything each time. Now they're just blowing it off like it's no big deal. I'm so mad I can't see straight.
Posted 16 September 2009 - 01:22 PM
I would either send out decent invites or a correction letter. You can't control the actions of your MIL and clearly she isn't interested in helping resolve the situation. I would take the matter into my own hands and make things right.
Posted 16 September 2009 - 02:49 PM
Posted 16 September 2009 - 04:35 PM
Just keep venting here, so when you see her, you won't rip her head off. My MIL won't come to our wedding because she is afraid she'll sold into the "white slave trade." Seriously. She actually believes this. I heard it with my own ears. Thank god we likve 500 miles away from her.
Posted 16 September 2009 - 04:46 PM
Posted 16 September 2009 - 05:19 PM
Posted 16 September 2009 - 05:27 PM
Keep venting here to help keep the peace with the new MIL.
Posted 16 September 2009 - 08:03 PM
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