Okay, having a emotional breakdown
Posted 01 September 2009 - 12:11 AM
If the whole experience you've had with him so far is really unsettling to you, then I think you should definitely consider changing venues if it's at all possible. I know $1300 isn't a small amount to lose, but if you are really having doubts I think you should pay attention to that.
The bride that gave the place a positive review... do you know her? I mean, is she on this forum and do you think the review was honest? Because if you can't change venues, then perhaps you can focus on the fact that other's have had a good experience and try to make the best of it.
Posted 01 September 2009 - 12:27 AM
Posted 01 September 2009 - 12:41 AM
Posted 01 September 2009 - 11:04 AM
| Originally Posted by echo2_62 |
Either that or when you have to send in your final payments, send two cheques with one of them being post-dated for the day after your wedding so that at least he has it in hand, but you can make an emergency stop-payment if necessary! It's definitely worth the shot.
Posted 01 September 2009 - 03:43 PM
| Originally Posted by Kristy! |
Just so you're aware, post-dating checks is actually illegal. When I worked in banking and had to deal with overdrafts, people would constantly complain to me that the check should never have been cashed because it was post-dated. Sorry, but once you write that check, you're stating that the money is available in your account. Tellers look at the date to make sure the check is still valid (some checks state that they are only good for a certain number of days), but don't care if the date is in the future. Just wanted to let you know that so you don't ever get caught up in that.
Sorry for the incorrect advice Sgt.Pepperette! Hopefully you don't have to resort to any extremes and get to enjoy the rest of your planning!
Posted 01 September 2009 - 09:02 PM
He didn't have a contract and he's holding you to "word of mouth" regarding the 8 people.. yet it means nothing to him that he did not disclose the extra costs until after you paid your deposit!
How did you pay your deposit? If by chance you did it by paypal I would open up a SNAD dispute (significantly not as described) -- it seems as though he added on fee after fee AFTER your deposit and that is not okay. You paid the $1300 deposit with an understanding that the total would be x dollars and he changed it after the fact.
There are laws to protect you from this, contract or not. He can't advertise one thing and then charge you another.
If you paid by check you would definitely need to do the small claims route should you choose to contest it.
I think maybe you should have a heart to heart with him and explain that you were going by the information on the website (take a screen capture of it before he changes it) and the website did not mention the fee for every person beyond 2 people.
Best of luck!
Posted 02 September 2009 - 03:31 AM
failing that get something in writing off him confirming everything then at least you have something to go back to him with if needs be.
Posted 02 September 2009 - 04:03 AM
If you're dead set on having at this place then it's a matter of getting everything from this point out in writing. If you can stand to lose the deposit, or like other have said, can contest it on your credit card -- then I would say change the venue and keep your peace of mind in tact. Sometimes your sanity is worth a loss of dollars.
I'm sorry you're having to go through such a horrible time with this guy -- he sounds like he's trying to nickle and dime you for everything = JERK! Plus I gotta say the whole living upstairs thing is weird and I'd feel totally awkward about that too.
Posted 02 September 2009 - 04:14 AM
Posted 03 September 2009 - 03:42 PM
My FI says he feels good with the guy, and I said as long as you do I trust you. I dont plan on dealing with the guy, Ill leave that to my FI.
This guy requires certified check for all payments, so I couldnt put a stop on payments or anything like that. And I noticed he has already updated his website with some small fine print. For now Im not saying anything, but after the wedding Im defintely going to give him suggestions on "running his business". The website he uses allows reviews so Ill probably mention something in there to.
Thanks for the posts, I appreciate it! Its very true that I fell in love with this place for a reason and in the end everything will be just right
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