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#11 *Meagan*

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    Posted 26 October 2009 - 08:08 PM

    Etiquette is bride first.

    #12 echo2_62

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      Posted 26 October 2009 - 08:23 PM

      I've read that before the wedding, brides name goes first but then after the wedding the grooms name goes first (so thank you notes, return labels etc). I think most of our friends refer to FI and I using his name first already though just out of habit.

      #13 jamk32179

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        Posted 30 November 2009 - 01:25 AM

        I have been looking all over the forum for this! Thanks!!
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        #14 BachataBride

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          Posted 30 November 2009 - 12:23 PM

          I think on our invites & STDs it was bride then groom...but when I sign anything from us now (cards, TY cards, etc) it depends on who it's going to - if it's his family, his name goes first...if it's my family, then my name goes first. If it's mutual friends then I think I usually put mine first!

          So, in short, I say do whatever looks & sounds best. That's the great thing with DW...you can through tradition & etiquette (some anyway!) out the window!! lol

          #15 hat0112

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            Posted 30 November 2009 - 02:06 PM

            This is good to know! I am just starting to look at invites and I was wondering about that!

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            #16 barcelo1162010

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              Posted 10 December 2009 - 02:50 PM

              Think it's proper to do the bride first. But I also think you can do whatever you want, so if you like the way it sounds with his first; go for it.

              #17 *Lo*

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                Posted 10 December 2009 - 02:56 PM

                I read that it depends on the letters in your names. I think this was in martha stewart weddings a few issues back....

                If one of the names ends in a consonant, you put that first and if one name ends in a vowel you put that second.

                Ie) Bill & Sara

                Or in my case it's Oliver & Lori

                If both end in vowels or consonants then it's customary to put the bride first.

                We did Oliver & Lori because it sounds better and looks better but it might be due to the vowel thing in terms of why it sounds better. I think when you have a vowel and the and right next to it, it's harder to say.

                Sorry long explanation I just researched this a TON because I was worried people would think we were doing something crazy to put his name first.

                These days, anything goes though. I wouldn't worry about it!

                #18 *Heather*


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                  Posted 10 December 2009 - 03:04 PM

                  I went by the vowel/consonant thing also. My husband's name ends with an "eee" sound so I didn't think it sounded as good against the "and" as mine, which ends in an "er" (obviously). If his sounded better I would have put his first.

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