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I've read that before the wedding, brides name goes first but then after the wedding the grooms name goes first (so thank you notes, return labels etc). I think most of our friends refer to FI and I using his name first already though just out of habit.

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I think on our invites & STDs it was bride then groom...but when I sign anything from us now (cards, TY cards, etc) it depends on who it's going to - if it's his family, his name goes first...if it's my family, then my name goes first. If it's mutual friends then I think I usually put mine first!


So, in short, I say do whatever looks & sounds best. That's the great thing with DW...you can through tradition & etiquette (some anyway!) out the window!! lol

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I read that it depends on the letters in your names. I think this was in martha stewart weddings a few issues back....


If one of the names ends in a consonant, you put that first and if one name ends in a vowel you put that second.


Ie) Bill & Sara


Or in my case it's Oliver & Lori


If both end in vowels or consonants then it's customary to put the bride first.


We did Oliver & Lori because it sounds better and looks better but it might be due to the vowel thing in terms of why it sounds better. I think when you have a vowel and the and right next to it, it's harder to say.


Sorry long explanation I just researched this a TON because I was worried people would think we were doing something crazy to put his name first.


These days, anything goes though. I wouldn't worry about it!

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I went by the vowel/consonant thing also. My husband's name ends with an "eee" sound so I didn't think it sounded as good against the "and" as mine, which ends in an "er" (obviously). If his sounded better I would have put his first.

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