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[*Karla*]

Ok, so here's the situation...

I used to be a teacher in a very small school, (approx 150 kids) and was pretty close friends with most of the other teachers. This school year, in September, I moved from the JH to HS (it's actually right next door & I am now the guidance counselor). I remained close friends with only a few of the teachers at my old school. So, I mailed out my invites this week, and I only invited those people who I am still close with. Due to some Facebook comments about how cute my invites were (thanks to BDW ladies templates), I guess some people realized they were not invited, because they didn't get one. There is now someone who was not invited giving me attitude! (I am subbing for a friend in summer school, so I saw her this morning). If I have not spoken to you in 8 months am I seriously supposed to invite you to my wedding?!

I guess when you are in a small school, stuff like that happens, but it is frustrating. It's not like she would come anyway. Half of me says to be politically correct I should just have invited everyone I used to friends with, but that should not be necessary. It's not like I invited everyone but her. I invited only 5 people out of 10. Those 5 are people I talk to everyday. Why would I invite someone that I do not talk to anymore? It is so irritating that people act like that!!!

[JOSIE]

I know its so stupid!! If you are offended inside, fine...but to vocalize it to others is so silly!!! Especially when you know that SHE KNOWS inside that you guys aren't close. She's probably just jealous everyone else gets a fun vacation!!!!

Don't sweat it. I didn't invite anyone from work (I only work with 30 people) and I've already gotten comments....... I just ignore them!

[~Nicole~]

People are so immature. It's amazing the personalities that come out as soon as someone says WEDDING! The other funny thing is that if you did invite that person, they prob would have walked around bitching to everyone how ignorant you are to expect her to spend all that money to go to Jamaica.... cause you know, its not like you guys are close. LOL - to me it was a no win. People like drama.

On the bright side, be happy you didn't invite her. Sounds like she would have just been added stress!

[ebredhawk]

karla, i am so sorry you had to deal with that!! who to invite and not invite can be such a touchy issue! i completely agree with nikki.. you don't want that coming with you and potentially messing up your day! plus, i bet she was jealous she didn't get one of your cute invites!!

[BillysBride]

Some people stand on ceremony/formality; even knowing that YOU know they would never have come, they have it in their minds that if you were cool, you would send them one anyway. I hate it. Those things are not free and why should I waste money on sending you something you'll likely take one look at, say "Oh, thats cute, but no way." and go on about your life? No, thank you.

Hell, I didn't even send an std to one of my brothers (I have six) and his wife. They know. They know and have spent so much time talking about their lack of funds (which is completely understandable as they have new twins), so I figured why the hell front about it? Y'all are not coming and I'm not going to put you on the spot by asking or expecting you to. No attitudes on either side.

[YoursTruly]

I think your title says it best. Seriously!! DOn't sweat it!!!

[soon2bePowers]

The rules of inviting are something that bother me to the core!! I don't feel like you should HAVE to invite anyone or that people should expect to be invited. I have several good (not great) couple friends whose weddings we were not at. That does not put a burden on our friendship. Also I would never want to be at someones wedding just because they felt they HAD to invited me.

We are running into this with our AHR (which I don't even want to have!) People who we see every six months to a year for a night of drinking ask if they are going to be invited. Who asks that