My FI is very private and I know that he would be against it, but I think it would be very helpful for us. Recently, I got the "100 questions to ask before you get married book" and we have been discussing it in bed at night. A question or two a night.
I think that is the closest thing I am going to get to counseling. The book has opened up alot of topics we haven't discussed before and is helping my FI talk about his feelings more. (He is the analytical one and I am the emotional one;)