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#1 starchild



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    Posted 24 May 2007 - 01:21 AM

    I know some of you wrote or will write your own vows for the wedding.

    We've been so busy at this rate it looks like we'll be writing ours on the flight to P.V. - seriously!

    So are we supposed to hide them from each other until the ceremony or did any of you share them in advance? We'll be sitting 5 inches apart and we're both so nosey that when we are through we'll want to share. After 7 years they won't be revelations so we aren't sure it needs to be a surprise. We tend to be rule-breakers anyways, but is there an etiquette for vows?

    And, can we have a cheat sheet for the ceremony? If so, who holds on to that? FI has pockets but I don't.

    #2 LadyP

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      Posted 24 May 2007 - 08:43 AM

      Have the matron of honor hold it. Make them little scrolls like from the cinderella when they announced the ball.

      #3 TammyB

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        Posted 24 May 2007 - 08:57 AM

        I would try to keep it from each other. I think its really great to hear it for the first time when your standing in front of each other on your wedding day.

        I plan on putting my vows in my purse, and I'll have Missy hold onto it and hand it to me just before the ceremony starts.

        #4 soulmates

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          Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:15 AM

          We are not going to hear each other's till teh day of, we both agreed on it. I think it makes it a little more special. I'm giong to have it written down just in case I forget something.

          #5 CourtneyV

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            Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:19 AM

            omg - all of your weddings are so close!!! Sorry, I know I'm stating the obvious, but I just got a little giddy for you guys! lol
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            #6 TammyB

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              Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:24 AM

              I know.. Jen & Ann are also within a few days of us as well. :-)

              #7 jpkw

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                Posted 24 May 2007 - 11:58 AM

                We just wrote our vows this week (finally!) - it was also something that we kept putting off. We have not shared them with eachother but we sent them to my brother who is doing our ceremony for us. We both tried to follow the same idea of 4-5 lines of what we promise or vow to do for the other. My brother is also going to interview us separately about why we fell in love with eachother and he'll incorporate that within the ceremony.

                I definitely think you should keep your vows from eachother and not share until the day of your wedding!

                Another nice idea I have heard is: When my brother got married, he inscribed his vows to his wife and her vows to him on 2 small silver plaques. He put it in each of their medicine cabinets so that each day they see/read it & remember their vows to eachother. I might try to do the same with ours...

                Good luck Jamy!! You are getting married the day before me!! When do you get back from Mexico? It will be so fun for all of us to share our stories!

                #8 RaydensMama

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                  Posted 24 May 2007 - 12:46 PM

                  I think it would be nice to keep them apart, but I think its up to the two of you if you want to share them or not. You could always ask your officiant to keep the vows up front until you make it up there. Then no one has to carry them down the isle. Just ask your maid of honor to set it up.

                  #9 NATASHA

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                    Posted 24 May 2007 - 01:30 PM

                    We wrote ours after we got there! We didn't share them with each other which was really special. I recommend it. You'd be amazed at how touching it is - even after you've been together for a long time.

                    We both wrote our vows on the hotel stationery (didn't consult with each other first he he). Our photographer shot a close of up each of our vows as we were reading them so we have a dual picture of what we said to each other which is sweet and I really like that it's on hotel paper!
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                    #10 TammyB

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                      Posted 24 May 2007 - 01:44 PM

                      Jen I love the idea of getting the vows on a plate and displaying them.. Hmmmmm the wheels are turning.. Be afraid girls be very affraid.. lol

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