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My mom brought this subject up today and I thought it to be interesting.

 

For those of you whom don't know what a living will is, from what I understand, if you should become hospitalized or in a coma and the doctors think there is no chance of your survival... you're signifiant other has the opton to stop the machines from keeping you alive.

 

I found it interesting that both my mom and my dad don't want to live if they are in a vegitative state and they both would prefer to die than live off machines. Of course everyone is different but I just thought it was interesting.

 

more info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Living_will

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i agree, everyone should have one of these - but i don't! my mom and sister do, but they also have special wills and legal documents so that their partners (both are gay) can have legal responsibility in case of emergency. it's better to be safe than sorry! good post ...

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FI and I are common law married already and should have done this by now. Gotta get on it in the near future. I refuse to live on a machine and it would suck if I was kept around because I didn't write it out . . . thanks for the post.

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I strongly agree with this subject. My FI and I have already got our Wills together and signed. You should have Living will done or a Will & Power of Attorney. I work at a Law Firm and we do Wills. I promise it is so much easier to deal with when a person's loved one has passed away and they have a Will. Let me know if anyone has any questions, I would be glad to help out in any way possible.

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Should FI and I do this now, or wait until October when we are married? I don't know if revisions have to be made when you change marital status. Also, do you see an attorney for this? Do you just call one up and say you want to arrange a living will? Sorry, I really don't know much about this.

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Should FI and I do this now, or wait until October when we are married? I don't know if revisions have to be made when you change marital status. Also, do you see an attorney for this? Do you just call one up and say you want to arrange a living will? Sorry, I really don't know much about this.
You and your FI don't have to do one right away unless you want to. I already had one before me and him. It's not hard to make a revision to a Will, especially if all you are changing is your name. You need to look in your phone book and call a couple of attorneys and ask if they provide this type of service at their practice. Some may or may not. I would also ask about prices, because some charge more than others! One thing you will need to think about is if you and your future husband unfortunately pass away at the same time you need to have Alternate Personal Representative.

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I don't have a regular will (dead will?!? lol) because I don't really own anything except a computer lol. And if "they" take that away, Aaron will be happy because he'll get to build another one anyways!!!

 

As for a living will, I never thought of this before - ever. I guess I always thought any type of will isn't necessary unless you have a lot of stuff to give away, or you have kids! I have neither! Lesson learnt though, Aaron and I will talk this over when he's back!

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I don't have a regular will (dead will?!? lol) because I don't really own anything except a computer lol. And if "they" take that away, Aaron will be happy because he'll get to build another one anyways!!!

As for a living will, I never thought of this before - ever. I guess I always thought any type of will isn't necessary unless you have a lot of stuff to give away, or you have kids! I have neither! Lesson learnt though, Aaron and I will talk this over when he's back!
It doesn't matter if you don't own anything huge. Do you have any debt, credit cards? If so, when you pass away, you still owe that debt. Your estate will have to be probated in the Probate Court of your county. I highly recommend you get either a Living Will or a Will and Power of Attorney. A POA is almost the same as a Living Will. I think everyone should have this dicussion with their future husbands.

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Such a great topic! Many couples and families avoid this topic since it causes you to face the truth that we all must leave here one day. Prior to FI I was so put together so I have both a will and power of atty. statement in the event of an illness. I should really adjust this since FI isn't mentioned anywhere... Now here's the kicker!

 

I have selected my dad, then brother to receive assets and make decisions. I really don't want to change that. I would rather have FI and father make a joint decision. Assets will be split according to what we had bfore and during marriage. Is that badhuh.gif?

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Such a great topic! Many couples and families avoid this topic since it causes you to face the truth that we all must leave here one day. Prior to FI I was so put together so I have both a will and power of atty. statement in the event of an illness. I should really adjust this since FI isn't mentioned anywhere... Now here's the kicker!

I have selected my dad, then brother to receive assets and make decisions. I really don't want to change that. I would rather have FI and father make a joint decision. Assets will be split according to what we had bfore and during marriage. Is that badhuh.gif?
Keep in mind that I am not an attorney and that all States differ with their laws and rules on this type of matter. Again I do recommend everyone calling an asking an attorney in their area all of general questions.

I'm sure that you and your family have a great relationship and hope that they love and adore your FI. But one thing I must warn is that I've seen some of the best families fight over assets and decisions when a significant other passes. I think that it's a great idea that you want them to split the decision, but ultimately that may cause a huge problem. I would recommend to have your FI as your First Personnal Representative and then your Father as the Alternative. If you should pass before your FI and your father is still alive and they both know your wishes that they split any decision. Then I would hope that they do that without having that in papper work.

Let me know if that makes any sense to you or helps in any way possible.

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