Pre -Marriage Counseling: TO DO or NOT to DO?
Posted 11 January 2009 - 06:40 PM
Posted 11 January 2009 - 07:07 PM
So far we have taken an extensive assessment and our next session we're going to go over how each of answered the questions and see if there are things we need to talk about. The name of the assessment is PREPARE. It covered a lot of topics. I think it's a good starting point. I'll let you know how the next session goes!
Posted 11 January 2009 - 07:12 PM
I was thinking about this very thing and feel that it's excellent idea.
In fact I plan to ask FI what he thinks about it...
I'm curious to hear from others who have been through pre-marriage counseling.
Posted 11 January 2009 - 07:16 PM
Posted 11 January 2009 - 07:19 PM
Posted 12 January 2009 - 05:51 PM
I'm not doing it I've already said to FI this is me, we've lived together long enough lol I'm not going to change so if thats a prob the door is just behind you lmao He's the same we both know its going to be difficult, nothing worth it isn't but I'm a firm believer in if its meant to be it will be.
Posted 12 January 2009 - 05:55 PM
I have talked to quite a few couples who have gone through it and although some of it was not fun, they are glad they did it. Good luck!
Posted 12 January 2009 - 06:19 PM
| Originally Posted by YoursTruly |
So I think even though it has a negative connotation, counseling can be an enabler towards a great marriage. Are any other BDW brides going to pre-marital counseling or any past brides participated and found it helpful and want to chime in??
Basically how it worked was like this...there were a bunch of topics. The priest would talk about each one individually and then there were "team couples" who would talk about personal events in their married life to demonstrate the topic (couples who have been married for years and attended that same retreat previously.) At the end of each topic there was a questionnaire that you and your fiance fill out separately...all containing the same questions. When you're done you exchange papers to see what the other wrote in private and then you talk about it.
We were forced to do this in order to get our marriage blessed through the catholic church when we return, and although Saturday was an extremely LONG day I think it was worth it. Alot of the stuff we discussed privately we had already talked about throughout our relationship, however, I did find that there were some things we never thought to address and it helped to get the ball rolling. All in all, it was a good experience and I would recommend it
Posted 12 January 2009 - 06:51 PM
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