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#11 BachataBride

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    Posted 17 December 2008 - 01:02 PM

    I'm not even sure if FI knows what date we're getting married!!! He knows that we leave for the sun on January 18th...but everything else is pretty much up to me. I did put him in charge of his stuff...clothes, sandals, BMs gift & most of that is taken care of. I'm pretty sure I won't be able to get him to do the TTD shoot - he says the wedding day is my day, but the rest of the "trip" is his time to relax & not be running around having pictures taken, etc! It really pisses me off!!! This is our wedding week -Not just a vacation (although I am looking forward to some R&R too!!) I'm hoping I can sit him down in front of the computer long enough to show him some pics & maybe he'll get it - but I won't hold my breath!!

    #12 da.shmoopies

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      Posted 17 December 2008 - 03:12 PM

      This is a good thread to read.

      My fiance and I had a big blow out about this same topic about a month ago. lol

      I didn't even want a wedding in the first place... I was fine with keeping it simple and sweet and just do the Justice of the Peace, but he wanted to have a wedding for his family and friends. One day I brought up something and he flipped and said he was not interested in hearing abut wedding planning at all. So I basically said "Fine!" and called it all off, since I was doing all the work by myself. Well, long story short and after a very long night, the next day he was very apologetic and we sat down and discussed what kind of support I needed from him. Now he just brings up things we should do for the big day out of the blue, and he tries to tentively listen (or pretends to listen ) when I ping him on an idea.

      I'm okay with doing the work, but I just needed his support... and his credit card... now and then.

      I think all couples go through this at some point. Of course, I think I'd wish he weren't so involved if he had TOO many opinions. lol

      #13 missdanelle

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        Posted 17 December 2008 - 03:16 PM

        Well im glad to see that im not the only one with a un-involved FI! Seriously, I made the mistake of trying to involve him in picking out a monogram for the wedding the other day... Not so much! Not to mention we have very different style tastes!! You gotta love em' though!

        #14 Kelly C

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          Posted 17 December 2008 - 03:19 PM

          I have to tell you girls becareful what you wish for. I had the oppisite. Mine had an opinion on everything and I couldn't get anything done. I actually had to start a thread on what to do with a FI that has an opinion. This help me get thru it without really hurting him. LOL. Good luck ladies.
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          #15 *Casey*

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            Posted 17 December 2008 - 03:30 PM

            Trust me, you are definitely NOT alone here!!!

            #16 KatyKo

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              Posted 17 December 2008 - 04:14 PM

              My FI is involved sometimes. He wants me to give him projects...and I have, but I have yet to see anything come of those projects, LOL. I am the kind of person that would just rather get it done myself than delegate, which is normally bad, but I love planning this wedding, so in this case it works out.

              We shall see if he makes us a sand ceremony frame, if he has clothes for the wedding day, and if he finds a cake topper (since he doesn't like anything I have shown him). :)

              #17 BachataBride

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                Posted 17 December 2008 - 04:23 PM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by KatyKo
                My FI is involved sometimes. He wants me to give him projects...and I have, but I have yet to see anything come of those projects, LOL. I am the kind of person that would just rather get it done myself than delegate, which is normally bad, but I love planning this wedding, so in this case it works out.

                We shall see if he makes us a sand ceremony frame, if he has clothes for the wedding day, and if he finds a cake topper (since he doesn't like anything I have shown him). :)
                I just ordered our topper & matching flutes & FI had no idea what they were! When I got them I pulled them out of the box all excitedly (word?) and showed him - he said "what's that?", I said "it's a cake topper"...his response.."oh" and continued to watch TV! GRRRRR!!! So I immediately went to my computer and decided to share my excitement with you girls (who I knew would be just as excited as I was!!)

                #18 Ashley0802

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                  Posted 17 December 2008 - 05:17 PM

                  I am with you girls! FI is not involved at all, we have picked out a location & thats it so far. I want it some time in the summer of 09 but that is coming up soon..

                  #19 Christinamaria22

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                    Posted 17 December 2008 - 06:58 PM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by BachataBride
                    I just ordered our topper & matching flutes & FI had no idea what they were! When I got them I pulled them out of the box all excitedly (word?) and showed him - he said "what's that?", I said "it's a cake topper"...his response.."oh" and continued to watch TV! GRRRRR!!! So I immediately went to my computer and decided to share my excitement with you girls (who I knew would be just as excited as I was!!)

                    lol... i am thinkin that we are def marrying the same man! I swear that is so him hes is like whats that for why do we even have to have that... whatever.. back to tv...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

                    #20 IndianBride

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                      Posted 17 December 2008 - 07:42 PM

                      omg, i'm so glad to hear that i'm not the only one with an uninvolved FI. I keep reading about how others are so involved and mine could care less - just wants to know where, when, how to look, what to say -- typical man! Oh well, I'd probably want to kill him if he gets too involved. Can't live w/em, can't live w/out em! :)




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