Stress!! attendance to my dreams wedding!!!

[Kristam]

Hi ladies!

I am a deams cabo bride and thanks to the help of all of you u made my decision easy. My wedding date is set for may 4th 2009. The thing i am stessing about is attendence of family and friends. originally i had many people say they were in for sure and now due to finacial situtions many have started to back out. I have put a down payment etc it seems to late to back out and now im freaking out that ill have no one at my wedding! i knew it would be a smaller size but now im wondering if it will be no one! Help need support/advice!! Thanks!

[Kristam]

ps sorry for all the typos!

[samanthag]

Hey girl!

Please know that you are not alone. I have read many threads about this very thing. From personal experience, we were going through the same thing. When we first announced our wedding we had 31 people pay deposits for their airfare. -That does not include FI family in Puerto Rico who rsvp to attend. Anyhoo, the room deposits were next. When the due date was up we had not one person contact us due to their financial difficulties. The stress was too much for me! We have a minimum consumption at the resort & with our guests beginning to drop out 1 by 1 we decided to call off the wedding. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do! I'm completely heartbroken! I know many other people who stuck it out and found a way to make their DW happen but for us postponing and regrouping was the best thing to do for us.

Good Luck with everything!

Do what's best for you and your FI!!

here's a hug for you & yours!

[Sloan]

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Originally Posted by Kristam Hi ladies! I am a deams cabo bride and thanks to the help of all of you u made my decision easy. My wedding date is set for may 4th 2009. The thing i am stessing about is attendence of family and friends. originally i had many people say they were in for sure and now due to finacial situtions many have started to back out. I have put a down payment etc it seems to late to back out and now im freaking out that ill have no one at my wedding! i knew it would be a smaller size but now im wondering if it will be no one! Help need support/advice!! Thanks!

We have no one coming to our wedding either!! Yeah, it does kinda suck and Im a bit disappointed ( okay Im super disappointed) in most of my friends/family. However, most have very valid reasons for not being able to attend. A DW is what FI and I want and regardless of how many people come, its about US and not anyone else. Seriously I only have my Mom, sister and my MoH coming. FI only has immediate family coming and no friends. Im past the angry, sad stage and moved on to the "Im partying in Jamaica with my new husband for 2 weeks and dont care who's coming with me" stage.

[shellb]

Your day is going to be special regardless of how many people. Remember most important people are you and your FH.

 

We had the same thing happen to us basically and we decided we are going to have a blast regardless.

[Kelly C]

I think everyone goes thru this to an extent. We had over 50ppl in the beginning and ended up with 24. And once we were there I was so glad. I got to spend time with everyone and no one felt left out. Hang in there it will all work out.

[ashley9078]

I'm in the same boat. Honestly I think if less people come the better! More time to spend with new hubby and the few that came. No worrying about 50 people and if they are happy bored angry happy.... It will be fine!

[Kristam]

Thanks ladies! Its good to know other people know what i am going through i guess i have to get through the disapointed stage and look forward to how fun it will be.~

[lgarner83]

Kristam- Have you made any travel arrangments with a travel agent? We found this was really helpful for getting people to commit. We spoke with a couple travel agents and told them our travel dates and where we were going and the one who found us the best deal was the winner. We asked her to give us a quote for a group rate (10 ppl or more). After we had our quote we sent out an email saying that "we found this great deal and if you are interested the deposits are due on this date, etc etc" This way we kind of did the looking around for them and we got a lot of happy responses with that. I think a lot of people don't know where to start! Plus once they have made their deposits they are more inclined to start saving! I hope this helps!

[sunstarsmoon]

As you can see you are not alone. I am not sure how many people will be coming when its time for deposits but my guess is not very many at all. I just hope I have enough for the free wedding. I have told everyone this is what I want and if you want to join us that will be great and if you can't I understand. Other than my children (2nd marriage for me) I have no family coming. FI right now only has his parents and we have 1 friend couple that has said forsure they are coming. No matter what you day will be amazing!

 

Chris