Father daughter dance - NO
Posted 29 September 2008 - 09:38 AM
I have 2 months to my Punta Cana wedding and everything seems to be falling in to place little by littleâ€¦ but one small little detailâ€¦ my parents were divorced when I was 2yrs old, my father never looked for me and when he saw me he would treat me like a strangerâ€¦ the thing is that my mom has been my mother and my father all my life I cant thank her enough for everything that she has done for meâ€¦ the thing is that she remarried when I was 10 and this man has been a â€œfather figureâ€ to me sinceâ€¦
When I ask around, people tell me that I should have a father daughter dance because he deserves itâ€¦ because heâ€™s been my â€œfatherâ€ and because he â€œraised meâ€â€¦ yes we have a good relationship but not the father daughter relationship â€“ I appreciate him for being with my mom â€“ thatâ€™s allâ€¦
Iâ€™m torn because I know that heâ€™s probably expecting to dance that father daughter dance with me but I donâ€™t want toâ€¦ I am thinking about dedicating and dancing with my mom the â€œfather daughterâ€ dance I want people to know how special she is to me and I want to let her know how much I appreciate her for being a single mom â€“ for raising me for being who I am todayâ€¦ all I am is because of herâ€¦ but I also donâ€™t want my step-father to feel badâ€¦
Please help me give me some ideas, what are some of you girls doing?
Posted 29 September 2008 - 09:51 AM
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Posted 29 September 2008 - 01:27 PM
I'm in a similar position in that my mum and dad split up when i was young and i don't have a relationship with my dad...although we were in touch in my late teenage years, he never made me feel equal to his new family. he found out we had set a date for the wedding and apparently was really angry they weren't invited...but i'm not having people at my day just because.
I'm having my mums partner as my "father of the bride", he was never really a father figure tbh, but he was and still is always there for me, more than my actual dad ever was.
I would love to have had my mum as my "father daughter dance", but unfortunately she is no longer with us. So i'd say do it! take the moment and make it what you want! share the "father of the bride" between the 2 of them!
Posted 29 September 2008 - 02:16 PM
I have a similar situation - my parents divorced when I was very young and my Mum remarried when I was 8, but my Mum and I have SUCH a strong relationship ... I love my step-father like a father, even though I've never called him Dad, but my Mum and I have such a strong bond.
My real father won't be at the wedding, he passed away a few years ago, but I was having issues with who would walk me down the aisle...
I told my Mum I wanted HER to walk me down the aisle and she said that it would offend my step-father if HE didn't get to do it ... and it's not that I don't want him to, just that I feel it's always been my Mum and I ... even though he did SO much for us ... so I suggested they BOTH walk me down the aisle, and again she said he would be a little upset that HE didn't get to do it.
So, I've decided he'll walk me down the aisle ... but I'm going to do something really special for my Mum on the wedding day ... not quite sure what yet, but something big. I'm an only child and we're so close it's crazy.
As for the father/daughter dance ... if you don't have a connection with your step-father Bavaro-Princess then don't feel obliged just to fill tradition! Everyone is right, it is YOUR day ... truthfully, it might offend your step-father if you dance with just your mother and not him, but maybe you can do something else for him, or just nix the parental dance all together and do something nice for you Mum like I plan to do so she's included in the day somehow...
Posted 29 September 2008 - 02:22 PM
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