Dollar Dance? Heard of it?
Posted 12 February 2009 - 01:06 PM
I just don't participate in it whenever I see it.
Posted 13 February 2009 - 09:03 AM
I grew up in an area where this was never done, and for the first few weddings I've been to where there was a "dollar dance" I was pretty shocked and thought it was completely tacky and offensive. However, "when in Rome", you do as the Romans, and eventually came to accept it as a feature of weddings in the region. If I were to attend in a wedding again where this was featured, I would certainly participate and have fun along with everyone else.
That said, I would *never* think to do such a thing at my own wedding. I would also add that I think the dollar dance is only appropriate for first weddings and/or young couples under 30 as an absolute maximum.
Posted 13 February 2009 - 09:06 AM
Posted 13 February 2009 - 09:25 AM
I can certainly see why those who do not celebrate the money dance culturally would see this as tacky. Although FI is not Filipino, we will probably do the dollar dance at the urging of my side of the family. I certainly am not expecting to walk outta there with boatloads of cash, but more so will have fun doing it outta tradition and culture.
Posted 19 February 2009 - 06:30 PM
Puerto Penasco, Mexico
Posted 19 February 2009 - 06:40 PM
This summer I went to a wedding and they had it, it did not turn out so fun no one hardley went up to dance. I really felt bad for the couple. If your family is the party type go for it..
Posted 01 March 2009 - 08:41 PM
I'm not absolutely sure what the story behind it is in the filipino culture but, in my head, this tradition is meant to help the newlyweds start off on the right foot in their newly joined lives, and as a wish for prosperity from the guests. I think it's similar to the chinese weddings where tons of gold jewelry and money are given to the couple to help them as newly married couple. Of course, this tradition isn't meant for everyone but for those who like the idea, why not?
I've participated in the dance in every wedding that I've gone to that had it...It's my way of sending them my well wishes. I mean, if I can help them start off on the right foot with a few dollars and a few moments of dancing, I think it's great!
Posted 02 March 2009 - 02:37 PM
Posted 03 March 2009 - 06:52 AM
From an etiquette standpoint, I would bet very good money that you would not be able to find any Emily Post types who would agree that having a "Dollar Dance" is polite. At the end of the day, guests are being asked to participate in a transaction where they are paying their hosts for a few seconds of social interaction/hospitality. If you have a situation where money changes hands from a guest to a host, regardless of cultural/traditional justifications/rationalizations, one can hardly say that it's correct etiquette. For this reason, the Dollar Dance will always continue to create controversy, even within circles where it is mostly accepted for cultural reasons (as seen in this very thread).
However, that's not to say that upholding tradition isn't also important. It really depends on what takes precedence for the hosts and guests involved - tradition or etiquette. There are certainly many cultural justifications and considerations that come into play. Ultimately, one has to weigh the importance of tradition vs. etiquette, and figure out which violation would cause the more serious offense.
Posted 03 March 2009 - 12:04 PM
Hey if tradition is so important, then my fiancee's family should front the bill right? Just Kidding!
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