So I had my first shower on Saturday....
Posted 20 August 2008 - 01:58 PM
So then later on my parents and some friends of our threw an engagment party for everyone to meet and greet coming to cuba.... soooooo i think it is a great idea since chris' parents dont know hardly anyone and was again really excited! so it starts at 630 and chris goes about 6, but i stayed behind with my bridesmaid who is breastfeeding her two week old son (who by the way is super cute and has quite the sideburns) so that i can drive us there because she has no clue where she is going.... so we show up about 7. Chris' parents, grandparents and sisters arrived at 640, and his grandparents were on their way out the door when i showed up at 7...I said good bye sorry I missed you blah blah blah whatever... did they say good bye to my parents or the peoples whose house it was at and thank you? NO whatever let it roll off....
So chris' parents and sisters come back inside, after being outside with his grandparetns FOREVER, which now I am only too certain they were plotting their escape..... they sit far away from anyone else at the party (as in they are hidden by the hosue on an upper, secluded deck while everyone else is poolside) and scowl the entire time again... So my mom goes around about 710 askig people if they are hungry and should we start cooking supper? chris' family was all like no we arent hungry blah blah blah so we decided no one is hungry fine we can munch on the PILES of food in the kitchen that was brought or left over from the shower, and when I say piles I mean we didnt even need to make dinner and there was enough to feed everyone there and then some.... so anyway, 720 chirs' dad says he needs to go because he has to eat because his sugars are getting low (he's not even diabetic)... now did my mom not just come around 10 min ago and ask if anyone was hungry? and is their not enough food (including fruit, which includes oranges, used to boost some sugar issues)? so they all get up and chris' mom says to me "i need to talk to you" and by says to me i mean barked at me... okay whatever inside i go and then they leave!!!!!! my mom trys to talk to them and they IGNORE HER, after earlier in the day his mom had ROLLED HER EYES at my mom when mom told her about the time for the party, after SHE asked....
So they all just got up and left and didnt say ANYTHING TO ANYONE and IGNORED people who were trying to talk to them... Do you not think that you could do this for your son? Do you not think that you could mingle? Do you not think you could act like an adult!? They had no thank you to the hosts for doing this for our son or no thank you for having us they just left!!!!!
So the next day they wanted Chris and I to go to their house... Screw that I wast going I was PISSED! So Chris went over and brought her dishes (which was all she wanted to talk to me about at the party, was getting those returned), and asked them if they had a good time and they said YES!!! They were disappointed that no one made an effort to talk to them (THEY IGNORED EVERYONE) and then said that maybe they could have made ore of an effort but that it will be different in Cuba.... WELL I F***ING DOUBT THAT!!! Whats going to be so different!? What the hell am I going to do if they ruin my wedding!?
Posted 20 August 2008 - 02:11 PM
I know it's hard, but don't let it get to you too much. Just try to accept that they aren't very social people and know that, as adults, they are responsible for themselves. Its wonderful of you, your friends, and your family to try to make them feel welcome and included, but if they don't want to be part of the fun at your shower, engagement party, or even your wedding, so be it.
At your wedding and the days leading up to and following it, try to be gracious and kind, but most importantly, focus on having a wonderful time...like I said, they are adults so they can take care of themselves, no need for you to stress about it or let it get under your skin when you're in Cuba.
Posted 20 August 2008 - 02:23 PM
Sweetie, I'm sorry they ruined your shower and your engagement party too. DO NOT let them ruin your wedding. If they want to be miserable in Cuba, don't let it get you down. Screw them!
It sounds like your family is really trying and they are not trying at all. What is his fam's problem? Do they have some kind of issue with you?
Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:00 PM
Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:40 PM
IGNORE THE FUCKING BITCH !! give her some of her own medicine. You don't owe them shit and so next time she barks an order at you politely say "when you speak to me like an adult i'll speak with you" and walk away!!
Nip it in the bud now or she'll make life even more hell. I know i've got one the same however she now knows that i'll rip her head off if she starts and you need to get to that point where she knows she can't walk all over you.
It happens with a lot of people chick you've just gotta smile sweetly while mentally saying to yourself in a kind of chuckie doll way "he's mine now" lmao
BTW if you need me to pop over and kick her head in it won't be a problem lol
Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:44 PM
Try and be cordial to her and ignore all of her snotty comments. She can not ruin your wedding, only if you let her get to you.
Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:56 PM
Have they always been like that towards you
Posted 20 August 2008 - 04:01 PM
| Originally Posted by Hartyt509 |
I'm sure everyone is thinking it but i'll say it lol
IGNORE THE FUCKING BITCH !!
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