Alright here's an update on my previous mama drama...
We've made a decision about my mother. I kept quiet for about a month festering in my own anxiety about how I should feel about my mom not going to our wedding. Then Hiram and I were at Bob Evans one night having chicken and noodles and I knew he could tell I was bummed. We weren't saying much during our meal and he says, "will you regret your mom not being at our wedding?"
The question caught me complete off guard and I answered without thinking and said, "yes." So he proceeds to tell me that he understands why I have concerns about my mom going to the wedding but that he thinks that I will regret it forever if she isn't there and he really thinks that I should encourage her to go.
I was shocked to hear him say it knowing his own feelings towards her, but my immediate response was that even if I do want her to go she doesn't have the funds available and would be too stubborn to say that she wants to go anyway. He proceeds to tell me that he earmarked enough of our savings to pay for her to go and knowing how she acts he said I should just call and tell her she's going and not give her an option.
And I did. And she said "fantastic!"
So Mom is going! She's actually very excited about it now and I've talked it over with her sister who she will be traveling with and my aunt promised me that she will make sure that my mom will not cause any raucous at our wedding! I'm very relieved now that I know that both my parents and Hiram's parents will be going to the wedding. I can't lie, a part of me is still very worried about how she will behave after a few too many drinks, but I know now that there will be friends and family there who will keep her in check so that I can enjoy myself.
Now we have six months to go and everything is starting to settle into place.
Thanks everyone for your support when I was ranting a couple months ago. It's very comforting to get those things off my chest to a group of people who I know won't criticize me for having normal emotions. You are all so great! Thank you!