| Originally Posted by dstinationdrmr |
I have definitely got to get into the swing of reading your posts daily. I'm so behind! I spent a couple days catching up and I'm glad I did. I am so happy to hear that you all are going through similar things that I am!! The beginning of break from BDW was due to Easter, although I did go try on some wedding dresses during my time off. Then, my break from the site got extended because FI and I had a HUGE fight!! To the point we had to sit back and do some soul searching to make sure this was definitely the right thing to do. So, now we're all happy again but I guess since I hadn't been focusing on getting stuff done for awhile, all my helpers fell off!!!
My sister (MOH) sometimes acts like I'm bothering her. My bff (MTOH) is going thru the process of adopting another child (which incidentally may remove her from her MTOH title). My mom...who knows what her issue is? I know that I have been obsessing lately and I mean to the point of tears. I don't want to seem like a brat but I feel like I'm sooo behind in all of this planning stuff and I just don't want to be pulling my hair out the month of. We're getting married in November. I'm in a wedding in October and a co-worker is getting married in December....but I'm the only one still planning stuff!!! Ugh! I don't think it would be so bad if I wasn't in the beginning stages of it all.
On top of me having a huge fight with FI and losing all of my help, my grandmother has decided she's going get a passport!? Why does that bother me you ask? Because when it was told to her that we were doing a DW, her initial reaction was, "Well I won't be able to go because don't have the money for that." Ok, we went into this knowing full well that some people wouldn't be able to afford to come. Problem is....she didn't even know how much it cost @ that point!! So, me and my mom (being the suckers we are) said that we'd help her out. Never once did she say she was going to take us up on our offer. I just get word that she's going get a passport. So....are you giving me a hint?! Too bad I think the only reason why she wants to come is because she doesn't want to be the only family member left @ home.
Ok, I'm sorry for my rant, but I had to get it off my chest. Sadly, you ladies don't really know me from a can of paint, but the people who do have made me feel like a little brat lately. So, it's nothing but smiles for them lately. They ask how wedding planning is going and I just say, "It's going." So dirtymartini I kinda feel your pain. The only difference is, in the beginning of my engagement everybody was all excited and tripping over themselves to help. I don't know which is worse, starting out thinking you'll have tons of support or starting out with none and prepping yourself for the worst?
Anyway, I'm gonna keep it moving and try to get organized. Next task....photographer.
Regarding the people that want to help you... they need to just get excited again and feel like their needed... I know, I know but it's true. If you yourself and muster up a little excitement go grab coffee with one or a few of them and say, "Hey I'm really getting into planning now and need (fill in the blank) done and thought you'd be PERFECT doing this since you're so creative or good at (fill in the blank). This helps, you need to get people involved or else they feel like they are forcing you.
Also, one lesson I learned... don't wait for people to tell you anything because they won't. Just ask, up front and blatantly. Tell your grandmother, are you planning to come to the wedding? I need to know by (fill in the date) so I can plan for it financially, other than that I will consider you not coming.
I'm sorry if this comes across rude, it's just how it has to be, direct with no fluff and you'll get answers, I hope, haha!
Also, just do one thing at a time... chose a photographer and do nothing else until that's done, then move on to the next item. Keep a list and check stuff off, you'll be moving in no time! I do a to do list for the thread every two weeks, feel free to add some stuff to do and you focus on those items for 2 weeks, it's easier to focus on a small list instead of thinking about your whole wedding all at once.
Vent away my dear, this is why we're all here, we all understand exactly what you're going through and have been there.