Originally Posted by tkuzma
Ladies I'm quite sad and hurt today...thus I need to vent a bit and figured you'd be likely to understand. 8 months into the planning process one of my supposed good friends and bridesmaid told me she's not going to be able to make the wedding; she made the choice to pick to go on a medical trip to South America over my wedding. Being in the medical profession we are forced to make sacrifices in our personal lives to further our careers, and sometimes vice versa as well, but I thought that my wedding would have been higher priority. To date I don't think she had even booked her trip or ordered her BM dress, so it makes me wonder if she ever had intention to go. Throughout this process, I've learned some of my "friends" are not truly friends, but I didn't expect this from one of my supposed closest ones. Given the general lack of excitement for this wedding abroad from others in conjunction with wide spread criticism, I am feeling disheartened and at the moment would rather elope....Sorry for the long rant, and thanks for listening!
I am so sorry to hear this. It's always very unfortunate when people that you care about, show that they don't care back as much. I understand that everyone has to make sacrifices, however it is always nice to know from the start (ie. I love you to pieces, but I know I will not be able to make it to Mexico. But I could help you plan or do projects, etc.) People seem to think that it better to lead someone on and then disappoint them.....sigh.
Try to take a deep breath, have a nice glass of wine and realize that you will still be surrounded by family and friends that love you! You will have a beautiful wedding, and at the end of the day it's really about you and your husband to be. If Mexico is the location you dream about, then you have made the right choice! Good luck- and know there are lots of us brides (current or past) who have all gone through the same misery and disappointment! Try to leave the stress behind you and enjoy the rest of your planning phase.