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[~Katie~]

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Originally Posted by daniepps That really sucks and the fact that she told you in a text makes it even worse. I think weddings bring out the best in some people and the worst in others and usually at the end of a wedding you know who your true friends are. I'm sure it hurts knowing you're going to lose your friend but right now the most important thing is you and your wedding. I foresee the same thing happening with me and my best friend. She's been very distant about the whole wedding (after she asked why I wanted to get married) and she didn't even call to tell me happy birthday last week. So I'm kinda bracing and preparing myself for her to cancel out but I know it's still going to hurt if he does happen.

thanks daniepps

we'll have to console each other! though I hope yours doesn't get as far as this. but if it does, remember we're all here to vent to and offer loads and loads of sympathy and advice.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you though.

[~Katie~]

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Originally Posted by amybermuda Oh girls that sucks about your friends not being supportive. Its so hard to understand why someone wouldn't want to celebrate with your happiest moments in life. I honestly think that when things like this happen - it is not you - it is their own issues. All you can do is be honest and hope they can be honest with you. SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'll be thinking of you girls !!!!

thank you Amy.

[~Katie~]

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Originally Posted by renee1811 Katie, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I HATE when people decide to break news like that over a text message--SOOOO rude.

thanks Renee....welcome to the dramas on this thread! lol

[~Nicole~]

Wow Kaite. Well to be honest I think the problem is likely what most people's problem is. Communication. Sometimes we let little things like who text or called who for what day build up into something bigger than it really is. I hope that once you both cool down you can work it out, because it doesn't sound like she wants to end the friendship. And she did flat out admit that she should have told you earlier, but it was a hard decision for her to make. Sometimes we just need to look at the bigger picture instead of why we're angry right that second KWIM?

[KittenHeart]

Nicole - haha SORRY!! Lindz & Katie are referring to my Facebook status yesterday.... my father passed away 10 years ago yesterday and I decided instead of trying to pretend it was just any other day and it never happened, which usually results in a horrible day ending in tears... strange I know but I decided to do the opposite. Focus on the good times and announce it to the FB world to just confront the fact it happened and I don't have to be sad about it.

 

I used Facebook as my therapy yesterday, haha, I know, lame but it totally worked.

[MrsVaughn2B]

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Originally Posted by Katie_2010 sorry lindz, I haven't done this yet - I got a TEXT from my 'best friend/chief bridesmaid' telling me she's not coming Mexico or being my bridesmaid, that she thinks we've drifted apart bla bla bla, so I wasn't too great last night. feel like I've been dumped I'll do it tonight for you tho. x

Katie,

I am sorry that your bridesmaid did that. Not a fun feeling at all. At least its better said now than in 5 months when there's no turning back; it would ruin your special day. I had this similar thing happen earlier in the year but at least now there won't be that awkward tension. Lots of hugs to you.

[~Katie~]

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Originally Posted by ~Nicole~ Wow Kaite. Well to be honest I think the problem is likely what most people's problem is. Communication. Sometimes we let little things like who text or called who for what day build up into something bigger than it really is. I hope that once you both cool down you can work it out, because it doesn't sound like she wants to end the friendship. And she did flat out admit that she should have told you earlier, but it was a hard decision for her to make. Sometimes we just need to look at the bigger picture instead of why we're angry right that second KWIM?

yeah maybe you're right...

it has always been me that's made more effort (just) which is fine and I've never point scored with her before. just since the last year, if I don't contact her, we don't speak. period. not 'we won't speak for a while', we just won't speak. I think trying to get something out from her when it all turned to wedding stuff just highlighted that....I even had other girls coming to me saying can you talk to her? she won't reply to me and I can't keep on texting, emailing or calling her.

I know I'm more angry about it now than I will be, and I know the text doesn't seem awful, but there is other stuff thats led up to that.

we'll see what happens. I'm a complete sop and I know if she came back i'd forgive her everything. but will keep you all posted. roll on the end of the day.

[~Nicole~]

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Originally Posted by KittenHeart Nicole - haha SORRY!! Lindz & Katie are referring to my Facebook status yesterday.... my father passed away 10 years ago yesterday and I decided instead of trying to pretend it was just any other day and it never happened, which usually results in a horrible day ending in tears... strange I know but I decided to do the opposite. Focus on the good times and announce it to the FB world to just confront the fact it happened and I don't have to be sad about it. I used Facebook as my therapy yesterday, haha, I know, lame but it totally worked.

I'm so glad you turned that into something positive! That's awesome, I really think you had the right approach

Katie - I feel so bad for you. This is extra stress that you really don't need leading up to a wedding and I'm in no way saying you are wrong or don't have the right to be angry so let it out! That's why we're here! But I just know that you'll look back on this and it won't matter, so keep your chin up

[KittenHeart]

Thanks Nicole!!

 

Katie - Good luck hun, this is a lot to deal with for sure. I'm not sure what you're going to decide on but I'd speak to her in person next if possible and just pull the string a bit... find out what her intentions were in that text. It did sound like she was ending a friendship which is pretty cowardly to do via text.

 

We're all here for you babe! XOXO

[amybermuda]

Amy KH, wow good for you. You really put yourself out there and got a positive result. That's awesome. I am really happy for you.

 

Katie - No, your friend's text doesn't sound that awful just be reading it - but with the background info its pretty selfish and rude. Its totally not your job to be friends with her Boy friend and go to his birthday party either. And yes, you may love her son, but again, the friendship is about you two and not her family OR her current boyfriend. She sounds like she is pretty unhappy herself and looking to blame you for parts of it. I really feel for you hon, around the holidays and 4 months to go... I think Nicole was really wise is suggesting you give it a few weeks for you both to cool off and see where you stand.

 

Friendship break-ups are just as difficult as relationship ones. It sounds like your relationship has been pretty one sided for a while now and its hard to write off a friend. Honestly though, if this was your fiance or a boyfriend treating you like that, your friends would probably be really mad at you for staying with someone like that. Same with a friend treating you poorly!

 

I have a BM who was mad at me for my Fiance not inviting her Boyfriend to his Bachelor Party. She said b/c she was in my wedding, her BF should be invited to the bach party.... I don't agree and things have been a bit strained between us since then.

 

It sucks, but what can you do?

 

Hope you are feeling better!!!!!!!!!