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#11 Christine

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Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:43 PM

perhaps explain on your website or have your hostess explain that its not the actually photography but the photos afterwards that they are helping to pay for.
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    Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:54 PM

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    I think it's totally different than asking someone to chip in for the caterer. If I were to get a registry card for photography, I would assume that my gift would be a nice print for their wall. That I would help contribute to paying for nice things like photobooks, prints, etc. Not the services per say.
    true. I would be happy to pitch in on a photographer, but I wondered if it would feel to some people like pitching in on the wedding cost.

    #13 starchild

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      Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:55 PM

      Honestly? I have to roll with Alyssa on this one, I say don't do it. I think most people here will say to do it but we are a biased group of recently or soon-to-be married people who are all about the fabulous yet cost-effective wedding. People who don't obsess about weddings most of their week will probably think it's tacky or just not get it.

      If you could use some help maybe you can appeal to people who know you well, but I wouldn't make it a blanket request...that's too close to footing the bill for your wedding IMO.

      #14 Alyssa

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        Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:56 PM

        Quote:
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        true. I would be happy to pitch in on a photographer, but I wondered if it would feel to some people like pitching in on the wedding cost.
        that is what i think too Morgan, especially b/c you are having a more traditional at home wedding. i think we all get it b/c we are all brides in the middle of getting married and paying for these little details but most guests are not thinking about this stuff!

        #15 Kristy!

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          Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:58 PM

          I don't really like it either. But then again, I'm not a fan of the honeymoon registries either.

          #16 jajajaja

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            Posted 11 June 2008 - 12:59 PM

            But don't most people take the cash gifts to pay for their "traditional" wedding expenses too. I have so many friends that use their cash gifts to pay off their wedding stuff.
            I don't see that really being much different other than by giving cash you are giving them the option of how to spend the money.
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              Posted 11 June 2008 - 01:00 PM

              Quote:
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              that is what i think too Morgan, especially b/c you are having a more traditional at home wedding. i think we all get it b/c we are all brides in the middle of getting married and paying for these little details but most guests are not thinking about this stuff!
              yeah & most non-brides don't understand the cost of photographers.

              But, I like the diea of stating that it is for prints & photobooks.

              My friend is having a beautiful wedding, but her photography budget is tiny. I'd love to pitch in for her to get someone better instead of buying her something off the registry. Instead I'm shopping around for someone great closer to her budget. I found a guy I really like if she decided to spend $1,600 instead of $1,000. I also worked on finding her dress for less.

              So brides get it. Photography really matters. Will your aunt understand? maybe not. But, there are choices for what to get someone.

              #18 jajajaja

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                Posted 11 June 2008 - 01:04 PM

                See that's kinda what I think- if they don't get it, then they have the option of giving cash or maybe buying something off a regular registry. Honestly, we didn't need anything so we registered even though we didn't want to. Now I have a bunch of stuff we didn't really need. I would have preferred cash but how can you just say "write me check or slip me some $20s?" We also have a $250 gift card to a store and we have no idea how to spend it. We don't really like anything there!

                But then again, I don't really have an uptight crowd that follows etiquette rules. Some of that stuff just seems so silly to me. :)
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                  Posted 11 June 2008 - 01:10 PM

                  Quote:
                  Originally Posted by LC_Rachel
                  See that's kinda what I think- if they don't get it, then they have the option of giving cash or maybe buying something off a regular registry. Honestly, we didn't need anything so we registered even though we didn't want to. Now I have a bunch of stuff we didn't really need. I would have preferred cash but how can you just say "write me check or slip me some $20s?" We also have a $250 gift card to a store and we have no idea how to spend it. We don't really like anything there!

                  But then again, I don't really have an uptight crowd that follows etiquette rules. Some of that stuff just seems so silly to me. :)

                  I agree. Everyone just wants money but for some reason we have to register for house stuff instead. I love the gifts that have been rolling in, but I was fine without them. It's the big wedding machine. Sell more stuff. I agree it's tacky to stick a deposit slip in the invite, but wouldn't we all love it if it wasn't?

                  #20 Maura

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                  Posted 11 June 2008 - 01:22 PM

                  i want to say also that although i voiced my opinion above that i wouldnt mind because im a bride and i know the prints can be costly, i do have to partially agree with alyssa & jamy - jac i think because you are having a more traditional at-home wedding, your guests who are not superclose friends probably would be like WTF, she wants me to pay for her photographer?




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