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#11 Celina

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    Posted 05 May 2008 - 10:17 AM

    Personally, I wouldn't have acommodated them in the first place. You are being too nice. If they are the ONLY ones with kids. Since it is already said and done, no - you are not being selfish. You are being more than acommodating. I hate people who do that. They make you change your plans to suit them, and then they change them with no regard to the sacrifice you made on their behalf.
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    #12 Hartyt509

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      Posted 05 May 2008 - 10:38 AM

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      Not selfish, in fact even if you had initially went with the adults only resort knowing he had kids you wouldn't be selfish - it's your wedding. Now you're stuck at the family resort instead of an adults-only like you wanted. That is just wrong and I'm sorry!

      The only thing worse on his part would be if he asked you to move the wedding to his new resort...lol Sorry to joke because it stinks...and it is proof once again that you should do what you want because people are flakes. (it's not his fault he can't afford it, it's his fault for not doing the math sooner thereby making a promise he couldn't keep - flake!) You'll still have a wonderful wedding but it is super annoying...best of luck :)
      I warned FI if he tried that i'd drive the 3 hours to where he lives and personally twat him lol

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      ALSO P.S. - i need you to make a siggy pic collage or how else am i going to see more pics of that Rottie? WTF?
      You're not being selfish at all, but this is a hard one. I can't imagine that flying 5 people to a DW would be affordable. Are the kids not staying there for free? I know if it's under 12 usually they don't pay. Can I TA help him get a better deal at the resort you're staying at? Also, I still think you'll have a very beautiful and enjoyable wedding!
      Yeah thats the point the kids will stay for free, they are paying for the flights, thing is they left it so long that the flights went up!! i've said to FI i'm not looking for them, we've tried to be reasonable up to him now.

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      Originally Posted by SoontobeMrsE
      Personally, I wouldn't have acommodated them in the first place. You are being too nice. If they are the ONLY ones with kids. Since it is already said and done, no - you are not being selfish. You are being more than acommodating. I hate people who do that. They make you change your plans to suit them, and then they change them with no regard to the sacrifice you made on their behalf.
      Yep they are the only ones with kids!! gr8 eh!! FI said oh well at least they are coming, I couldn't give a stuff they aren't my friends and the kids are wicked. Maybe its best they stay at another hotel then I won't want to feed them to the dolphins lol

      Thanks guys I feel better now I know i'm not being a cow!

      #13 SunBride

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        Posted 05 May 2008 - 12:37 PM

        Yeah, it really sucks, and you have the right to be annoyed, but this kind of stuff happens at weddings, so it's best to just try not to let it upset you too much. Lots of stuff goes wrong with weddings and if you are too busy being pissed off about the bad stuff then that leaves less time to be happy about the good stuff right?

        Not trying to be hard on you, like I said, it does suck a lot, but just trying to make you realize that there isn't much you can do at this point since it's too late to switch resorts (without your other guests who have booked loosing money).

        #14 boscobel

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          Posted 05 May 2008 - 12:43 PM

          Really, I don't think you are being selfish, cuz they should have looked at the when you said you were using a child-friendly resort for them. They probably knew back then that it would be out of the price range. I think they should've been honest in the 1st place (or as soon as they knew it was out of their range) so they could give you time to reevaluate. Sometimes people just aren't in tune to what we need.

          #15 Pisces

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            Posted 05 May 2008 - 02:19 PM

            It sucks all around. Did you discuss with them why you chose this resort before you did? It's not really their fault that you accommodated them in the beginning. If they can't afford it, they can't afford it... I think it's a good example of one of those instances of being too nice and accommodating for others and it biting you in the butt. It's an unfortunate way of reminding us that we have to decide what WE want before we put everyone else first. It's our day. Don't make any more concessions for others because you can never guarantee these things with weddings.

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            #16 Hartyt509

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              Posted 05 May 2008 - 02:25 PM

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              It sucks all around. Did you discuss with them why you chose this resort before you did? It's not really their fault that you accommodated them in the beginning. If they can't afford it, they can't afford it... (
              Yep FI did,he said where we were thinking of and that it may be expensive but we were looking for a compromise - ie we didn't want someone crap for our wedding, he thought it was a great idea! He's got 3 kids but 1 of them doesn't live with him he lives with his mum, so I said make sure we know whether its 2 or 3 - FI (being an arse!) said oh it will only be the 2 of them - but nope its the 3!! So they did have an idea how much it would be before we booked but thought that the holiday fairy would make it cheaper lmao!

              #17 jajajaja

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                Posted 05 May 2008 - 02:27 PM

                Ok so aside from the crappy friend drama, do you think Dreams will be crazy with kids? I haven't stayed there but during our stay in PV, it was spring break so kids were in full force. Fortunately, our resort had an adults only pool- which most people ignored anyways and let all their kids in it. I get so annoyed by children and thankfully, I wasn't bothered at all during the trip. I saw them, but they weren't crying and annoying the crap out of everyone.

                So silver lining- I bet your resort will still be awesome even if a few rugrats are running around!

                OR can you switch resorts? After all, it's a year away?
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                #18 LCBride2007

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                  Posted 05 May 2008 - 02:35 PM

                  Sorry, haven't read the rest of the posts yet!

                  Did this friend know you picked this resort for him beforehand? If not, then while I dont think you're being selfish at all, I don't know that you have much room to complain. I don't know that you can expect him to stay somewhere that's outside of his budget!

                  If he did know, then I think he was a bit rude in not staying there.

                  #19 Hartyt509

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                    Posted 05 May 2008 - 04:11 PM

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                    Originally Posted by LC_Rachel
                    Ok so aside from the crappy friend drama, do you think Dreams will be crazy with kids? I haven't stayed there but during our stay in PV, it was spring break so kids were in full force. Fortunately, our resort had an adults only pool- which most people ignored anyways and let all their kids in it. I get so annoyed by children and thankfully, I wasn't bothered at all during the trip. I saw them, but they weren't crying and annoying the crap out of everyone.

                    So silver lining- I bet your resort will still be awesome even if a few rugrats are running around!

                    OR can you switch resorts? After all, it's a year away?
                    Kids as a rule don't bother me i love them, but just wanted some peace and quiet for 2 weeks with FI, don't see him much because he's in the army so thought it would be nice to get some quiet time alone lol and with the dolphins i'm not sure that will happen lol

                    I'm not sure when your sping break is but I know its not ours when we are there so hopefully wont be too bad lol

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                    Sorry, haven't read the rest of the posts yet!

                    Did this friend know you picked this resort for him beforehand? If not, then while I dont think you're being selfish at all, I don't know that you have much room to complain. I don't know that you can expect him to stay somewhere that's outside of his budget!

                    If he did know, then I think he was a bit rude in not staying there.
                    Yep everyone coming (apart from FMIL) has known about the resort since Jan when we said look at this resort and let us know what you think,we are really considering staying there because of the fact we can then all be in one hotel. His response "not a problem" and "Don't worry we always have to get 2 rooms"!!

                    People arggggggggggggg lmao

                    #20 jajajaja

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                      Posted 05 May 2008 - 04:15 PM

                      Ours is late March through early April. The kids will be long gone before you get there. No worries!
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