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#1 foxytv

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    Posted 31 March 2008 - 10:57 PM



    I think I am really just on edge with nerves b/c I know I have so much left to do, little time to do it ... and Tom thinks I should have been able to put more $$ towards this DW. I am just ssoo stressed that I have been snapping at him almost every day when he even so much as brings up the wedding. And my stress level is so high I am almost in tears when I get home every night.

    Starting my new job has been so fabulous, but boy-oh-boy ... the timing. I am SSOO busy with this job -- many 10+ hour days -- that I am not sleeping well, not having time to get to the gym or tanning bed, not able to finish up these DIY projects, not make it to the mall to use my VS gift cards .... not to mention that my friggin' laptop still is a P.O.S. so getting online to BDW or to do DIY stuff is next to impossible.

    I know that whatever doesn't get done, simply doesn't get done ... but right now I just need to know how to NOT keep freaking out internally. Tom and I are snapping at each other and not meaning to ... we are both doing all we can to tiptoe around each other b/c of MY stress level.

    He just doesn't seem to understand that while I haven't been able to contribute much monetarily, that I have SAVED us a ton of money -- and have been working my a$$ off to get things done, especially the DIY stuff. Don't get me wrong, he does know I have put a lot of time and effort into it ... but I just seem to think that counts for something. It's easier to write checks when you have the money than to do actual work to make a DW happen, IMHO.

    Anyway, it will all be over soon .. and we will be sunning on thea beaches of Punta Cana ... I just hope we can get through these last 2 weeks before we leave.

    Thanks for letting me vent...

    #2 BrittneyD

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      Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:05 PM

      Tami,
      I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. We all know that it takes a lot to plan a destination wedding. Try to take a deep breath. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. I know you and Tom will be able to work through this, and you will have a beautiful wedding and life together.
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      #3 Kat81

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        Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:07 PM

        Just two weeks!! Try to keep your cool and just chill. Like you said what doesn't get done, doesn't get done. You know we are all here for you if you need help with anything!!

        #4 foxytv

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          Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:09 PM

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          Tami,
          I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. We all know that it takes a lot to plan a destination wedding. Try to take a deep breath. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. I know you and Tom will be able to work through this, and you will have a beautiful wedding and life together.
          Thanks Brittney! I'm not worried about "us" ... thank goodness I know we will get past all this ridiculousness ... I am just up to my ears in so much stress I want to pull my heair out.

          He is willing to help ... but the stuff left to do is all stuff I need to do online -- design more hang tags (and get them printed) finish selecting and downloading our playlists (we are finishing this together this coming weekend), designing/writing/printing the welcome letter and wedding day timelines, completing centerpieces (Mom is helping with this), etc etc.

          It's a lot, but it's not a lot. It's just I don't have enough hours in the day leading up to our departure date.

          Maybe I should just drink some wine... lol (instead I'm listening to Tom peacefully snore away in the bedroom as I am out here online surrounded by boxes of wedding stuff).

          #5 foxytv

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            Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:11 PM

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            Just two weeks!! Try to keep your cool and just chill. Like you said what doesn't get done, doesn't get done. You know we are all here for you if you need help with anything!!
            Kathi -- your siggy line made me smile ... and you are right!

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            #6 A10CalGal

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              Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:12 PM

              Oh girl!!! I totally know where you are at. It is definitely time to BREATHE and let some of this shit go. You have done a wonderful job on your planning, and this is the point where you kinda have to step back & just let it all unfold. Just try to be brutally honest with your FI about where you are right now - irrational as it may seem. Hopefully by opening up to him you will both find a bit of peace? Hang in there.

              #7 Kat81

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                Posted 31 March 2008 - 11:13 PM

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                Originally Posted by foxytv
                Kathi -- your siggy line made me smile ... and you are right!

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                :) Time to dance in the rain?

                #8 Yari

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                  Posted 01 April 2008 - 12:07 AM

                  Just think you only have two weeks left. Take a deep breath and dive into your projects. You will get it all done!!!

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                    Posted 01 April 2008 - 05:14 AM

                    Aww Tami, that stinks!! You have a great attitude and you are certainly entitled to stress because it is crunch time. And you're right, you'll be on the beach chillin with Tom soon and none of this will matter.

                    But...if we can help with the odds and ends you know we will. You mentioned you still need to get some music? I have something like 3000 audio files in my playlist so maybe I have a song you need.

                    Also, I Limewire like it's nobody's business so if you tell me the titles you need I can get them and send them to you. You have my email or just PM me if you can use a hand :)

                    #10 kristi

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                      Posted 01 April 2008 - 06:15 AM

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                      Originally Posted by foxytv
                      Thanks Brittney! I'm not worried about "us" ... thank goodness I know we will get past all this ridiculousness ... I am just up to my ears in so much stress I want to pull my heair out.

                      He is willing to help ... but the stuff left to do is all stuff I need to do online -- design more hang tags (and get them printed) finish selecting and downloading our playlists (we are finishing this together this coming weekend), designing/writing/printing the welcome letter and wedding day timelines, completing centerpieces (Mom is helping with this), etc etc.

                      It's a lot, but it's not a lot. It's just I don't have enough hours in the day leading up to our departure date.

                      Maybe I should just drink some wine... lol (instead I'm listening to Tom peacefully snore away in the bedroom as I am out here online surrounded by boxes of wedding stuff).

                      There you go! Have a glass of wine..that'll make you feel better! Good luck!!!




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