| Originally Posted by cessyboston |
well i would think family would not want to miss your special day and paying them off is not what you need to do, just be thoughtful and they should know you apriciate them
My relationship with my sister is a sticky one, we have never been really close because everything has always been a competition. I'm the oldest and she suffers BIG time from middle child syndrome. Everything has always had to be "fair" with her. She got married first, bought a house first....and I thought that, that would have settled the competitive side of her but it didn't.
The minute we decided to have our wedding in Charleston (which when she was planning her wedding my parent suggested she have her wedding there). She FLIPED out!!!! Called us selfish, told us we should pay her and her husband for missing work.....pay for there travel expenses....and my dad told her "don't come....Chris, if it's such and inconveince, then don't come" and I really feel bad for my dad. He's so excited that we're having our wedding there and he gets nothing but guilt trips and lectures from her because he wasn't this excited about her wedding, to which he responds....of course not to her, she got married in our church, she had her reception at a resturant that we've eaten at a million times....her wedding was great but I've already seen everything. My parents are really stuck in the middle.
So in closing.....(sorry for the rant) this is really why I feel the way I do about my girls...
Oh and not to mention gas prices will be $4 a gallon by then....she's already called me and emailed me stating...."You picked a hell of time to get married....your wedding is gonna cost me a fortune". Don't worry it's not affecting her trip to Italy in September at all....hint, hint....that because that's something she WANTS to do!