I love the idea of thinking of it as more of a party!! Question for you ladies thou: at our DW we are nothing really having a reception (with the first dances and what not - we are having the ceremony, dinner and then the younger crowd is heading to the disco), so I am completely lost on how our AHR should work...any ideas??? I want to incoportate the first dances, a cutting of the cake (at the in-laws request), and a few speeches, but we are not having a sit down dinner, just appetizers......If anyone can suggest how to make this work I would be SO thankful!! O and the girls want to wear the dresses again so I am unsure if I should make the event a dressy or casual dress code......