~Nicole~

Oh wow, I didn't even know they still did that!  I don't know anyone that's had it done thats for sure, but I'm glad its not a concern anymore!  I can't believe you're already 38 weeks!

Our names are going to be a surprise, but at the rate we're going, if we have a girl she will be called noname

Congrats Joanne!!!  Awwww don't worry about your reaction.  I honestly feel that no preg woman should ever be judged lol.  Our hormones are uncontrollable and its probably a combination of that and your momma instincts kicking in... which could be bad for me because i joked about my u/s pics and called it my baby ET or penguin.  Don't judge me hahaha!!!

Hmmm ok good to know!  Now to find a photog.... feels like my wedding again lol.

Carly - ya it basically means i am way more likely to need a c-section.  If you can believe it I've actually had people say "omg that would be awful!"  I'm like what????  Seems pretty trivial to me after all I've been through.  I just want a healthy baby, at whatever cost! 

We didn't find out the sex, although the suspense is killing us.  I have a feeling its a girl, but who knows!

Ann, good point about the early delivery.  Also with all the medical support now a days things are pretty likely to be ok, so thats what i think of!

We paid for ours as well, but every family is different.  My only advice is that its all worked out before you start booking things.  It makes it less stressful if you know how much you're working with and how much you need to contribute. 

OMG Katrina!  I can't believe you carried 38lbs around your waist for that long!  Crazy!

Well besides being on edge all the time..... we had a scare at 15 weeks when my dr couldn't pick up a hb.  We had to go for an emergency u/s and it felt like the longest half hour of my life.  All the horrific memories of my m/c came back.  To keep myself together i had to shut down.  I just blocked it out.  When i got in the room the tech let me hear the hb and OMG!!!!  The happiness, i can't even explain it.  I don't take any days for granted thats for sure.  I just can't wait for this little one to arrive!

Love your pics Carly!  I'm actually just starting to think about maternity and newborn pics now.  I'm reading on most photography websites that they recommend to do them between 32-36 weeks.  This will be challenging for me considering my baby may be born by then lol.  But I really would love to do them even if i'm not the cutest preg person around like you are.

Carly, you know I've always followed your story and I am SOOOO happy for you!!

Congrats to Blondie and any other preggo's out there!

I feel like my story is a long one too so I'll give you the short version.  We decided to go off the pill in Nov 2010 and just see how things went.  Well to my surprise i was pregnant the next month lol.  I guess i just wasn't expecting it to happen that fast, but regardless, once the shock wore off we were THRILLED!!  My first u/s was the 12 week mark.  Unfortunately we never made it..... I started to m/c just before.  I'll save the horrendous part of that for the m/c thread another day, but I will say that it truly was the darkest time of my life.  I struggled with that for a long time, still do to be honest.  I feel like im a strong person and the m/c really did break me.  My mind knew i needed to move on but my heart wouldn't let me.  Luckily i have the most amazing husband and we worked through it together, but i can definitely see how it could potentially push two people apart.

In the meantime, I had been to a few specialists as i have a bicornuate (heart shaped) uterus.  Well i got pregnant again a few months later but lost it really early.  Technically it probably doesn't even count as i never had a dr confirm it or anything.  I just "knew".  Right after that my specialist told me that I needed to have surgery to cut the septum divinding my uterus 3/4 of the way down.  Ok fine... another delay.  My surgery was booked for Nov 2010, but whoopsie, got pregnant.  Apparently that part is super easy for me.  I was horrified.  The specialist had told me that i couldn't possibly carry full term and HAD to have the surgery.  So now i'm thinking "omg..... i just murdered a helpless life.... i won't be able to keep the baby."  The office talked about medically forcing a m/c, etc so i made sure i never got attached to the pregnancy.  I had a 6 week u/s and they confirmed a hb.  Better than the first time (blighted ovum).  Then they told me to hope for a miracle and carry the pregnancy as far as possible.

I'm 22 weeks now.  I refrained from posting in here because we have gotten SO MUCH conflicting info from dr's.  First im told im high risk, then the high risk hospital denies us, then i'm sent somewhere else..... needless to say this pregnancy hasn't been exactly enjoyable.  I have felt like all i do is worry.  But i met my new OB/GYN and she seems very optimistic!  So far everything is going fine so I've decided to just stay positive and try to enjoy what should be a really great time in my life.  I'm high risk for early delivery so i'm hoping to make it to 36 weeks, FX!

And yes, that was the short version hahaha.  Sorry.

Originally Posted by FutureMrsF 

 

ok so I'm a little late but I'm reading way back in the AS thread and saw that you had a small wedding, more akin to what I'm planning and I had to check it out. Glad to see that I don't have to have a big wedding to make it great and that I don't have to freak out over planning. Thanks for posting!

I can honestly say that even 2 years later, I have NO regrets in how it all turned out!  Don't feel intimidated by the differences in extent of planning!  2 people or 100 people, its a wedding .

Originally Posted by acireta 

 

very true. I just am so blown away by how NASTY some people can be. I have been planning every friggin aspect of my wedding based on how to make it the best vacation possible for my guests. Never once have I said "it's MY day." Wedding Etiquette is subjective, but general manners, kindness and compassion are not.

 

Thanks again for having all of us here, Tammy!! I think most of us would say that we would have no idea what we were doing without BDW.

Yup, so true.  I would have been completely lost!  And while different perspectives are welcome here, downright uncalled for comments aren't tolerated.  Happy planning

Annnnnddddd I just went back to the Azul date list and realized that your wedding was last month, so now I'm off to find pics to see how great you looked

Murmel, you did a GREAT job with all of your planning!!!  I wish you the best on your wedding day! 

Wow Jen, that's pretty insane.  Are you really close with your sisters?  Is there any way you can sit them down and just say "listen, I know we have different ideas on what the perfect wedding should look like, but this is my wedding and I'm hoping that you two can support me in whatever choices I make!"  Or something along those lines.....the point I'm trying to make is to bring to light the fact that its YOUR wedding.  Also, how old are you girls???  Their actions just seem really juvenille to me.  Have they had friends go through wedding experiences, or is this all new to them?  It all just seems so strange!

Hey ladies!  I haven't been on here for a while but wanted to see how all your planning was going! 

Oh and that is unbelievable that they DO perform the legal ceremony in English!  I was a victim of the "no it must be done in Spanish" response.  So if it can be done in English I definitely recommend that lol. 

Originally Posted by JennW818 

 

I'm so glad I found this thread.  Reading all your stories has made me feel so much better about being in the same situation.  I originally assumed that we would have a very small wedding.  Much to my surprise, over 50 people responded that they were coming or told other friends that they were coming.  Now, with 3 months to go, only 2 couples have actually booked.  My booking close date is March 1st.  I'm sure that some of these people will wind up coming, but it's looking like my number will be closer to 20-25.  I'm completely fine with that and am extremely thankful that those people will be coming.  At the same time, I feel a little disappointed because I've spent so much time planning things around a big group.  I'm so confused what to do about my plans now.  Do I still get a DJ and dance floor for 20 people?  I feel like it will look silly. Can you still have a tradtional reception with that small of a group or is it just a private dinner? I'm honestly a little sad at this point.  We're not having an AHR and I really want to have all those special moments...the first dance, cake cutting, etc.  My bridal party is seriously going to be half of those attending!    I'm so confused now.

Jenn, let me assure you that you can totally still have those special moments!!  All but 2 guests and a baby where in my wedding party, so I thought that would look so strange, but it worked out!  I wanted a first dance as well so we did it immediately after the ceremony since all the sound equipment was there.  I think the decision to get a DJ would depend on the group you have going.  If you want one, get one!  I didn't have an AHR either, so the small Mexico wedding was the extent of our celebration and I was in no way disappointed.  Seriously don't be down about it!!  It will still be as special as ever!!  Do whatever feels right to you

This was my situation exactly.  The usual - everyone is all on board and they will 100% be there.  I had even put deposits down for ppl and they ended up bailing.  It ended up being 9 of us in total, and that included a 6 month old baby lol.  The only family that ended up coming were my brother and sister.  My mom, who I'm very close with, or was very close with, didn't come which I thought would bother me.  I know that I can't take away any of the emotions that you're going through because I think those are inevitable, but let me assure you that your wedding will be amazing.  I had some important ppl not come, and to be perfectly honest, I didn't miss them one bit.  Sorry Mom, but I didn't think of you all day!!  And that's completely true.  We all get so caught up in trying to PLAN the perfect day.  But truth be told, its the purpose of the day that makes it so special and perfect.  After going through the roller coaster of emotions through my planning process, I wouldn't change the fact that I did a DW.  The only thing I would do differently is to not worry about all those things that I lost sleep over and cried about.  So you're not alone!  I wish you the best wedding day ever!

OMG Bree!!  I think you're the most talented person I know.  Seriously, everything looks so great!!  Have a fab time in Jamaica and I can't wait to get together when you're back to hear all about it and look at your pics! xo

I'm jealous of all the turkey you ladies had lol. 

Hi ladies!  Sorry to just barge in your thread here, but I'm going on vacation from Dec 11-18 at the Royal Suites Turquesa.  I'm sure you guys already have tons of pics from past brides, but I thought I'd let you know in case you need pics of something specific.  I'll do my best to help anyone out that needs it!

Steph - I'm so sorry you're going through this.  I do however feel that we could NEVER give you the perfect advice.  The fact is we are all strangers to you..... we can't say if its right or wrong for you to have these feelings because we don't know the ins and outs of your life.  So I don't want to say its perfectly normal under the circumstances because I don't KNOW that.  So I guess what I'm saying is you need to take a step back and really evaluate your situation.  The plus side, which the other girls already indicated, is that you have a legit reason to postpone the wedding.  I definitely agree with Lisa though, don't get married because you're afraid of not being married!  Even if it seems tough to start over in the relationship department, just think how tough it would be to spend the rest of your life with the wrong person.

I'm sorry I'm not better help!!  Good luck Steph!!

I've started reading the girl with the dragon tattoo and I'm having a really hard time getting into it.  I know everyone recommended it, so I'm hoping it picks up soon!!  Right now I'm using it as a way to go into a coma at night when I go to bed.

B2B - murmel

Mrs - dstinationdrmr (meredith)

Good luck ladies!!!

Chong, your planning thread is amazing!  And your dress was gorgeous!  Congrats!

Enjoy your wedding!!!  It goes by fast so take it all in .  Congrats in advance!