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Girl thank you so much!!!!! I feel so much better now!

Quote: Originally Posted by loveangel0610 It's so unfortunate that you have to go through this. Families kill me trying to control some one elses wedding. I'm sure no one told them where to marry and if they did I'm sure they didn't listen. If Mexico is what you and your FI want then I say go for it. Screw his family. If they want to see you two get married then they will be there. Thanks girl - and we ARE going for it!!!!!! Thank you for the support!

Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa Hi April, Ok, I am going to respond in a bullet point fashion because you sound like such a nice person and i feel like FMIL is bullying you and it is pissing me off - since I am ing out of my mind, I am afraid that if I answer you in a paragraph form, I may freak out on your FMIL and FI's family . This is your and FI's weddiing - you are on the same page that you want it in Mexico - not an option to have it ANYWHERE else. YOU are paying for this wedding - if you don't have the wedding YOU and FI want, you will never, ever forgive yourself. your FMIL needs to get over her-self - this isn't about her and if she can't 'accomodate' her own son's wedding, she has much bigger problems than travel dates. I suggest putting an end to the madness and letting FMIL know that you and FI understand that this is not the exact situation she would like but this is when /where your wedding will be. Further, let her know that she is welcome to host and pay for an AHR for her friends and family that cannot make it if that is something important to her (don't you pay for that too!!) Finally, if you allow FMIL and FI's family to control you now at the beginning of your marriage, it will never stop and continue to get worse. Good Luck and ! Alyssa This is exactly the response I needed to hear. I feel so much better, and girl you are keeping it real! lol. Seriously though, a million thank you's for calling it how you see it. You're right, I have to put a stop to this madness. I'm a very independent person, and this negative energy has drained me and blinded my decisions, hense the cancellation of plans. I feel that I'm back on track. Despite my independence, I still have feelings and they have been trampled on enough. Why can't some people just be happy for others? Thanks again, I APPRECIATE you.

Quote: Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO April, first, I'm sorry to hear about your father. That alone must be hard to deal with. I don't have too many words of wisdom except to tell you to follow your heart. If YOUR dream is to marry in Mexico & your FI wants the same thing, then go with that. This is your wedding, not your MIL's. You have to do what you guys want. Trying to make other people happy while sacrificing your own wants is not going to work. As you have already seen, since you've changed the date & location before, you can't make everyone happy. No matter where you have your wedding, there will be people that want to attend but won't. Since that is the case, you may as well do what you two want to do. You say that your FI's family believes that you are the one making all of the decisions. Has your FI said anything to them? Do they know that he wants the wedding in Mexico too? I suggest having him sit down with his family & let them know that he is taking part in the planning & the decisions and that getting married in Mexico is what he wants! All in all, don't let their guilt trips get to you anymore. You are not the bad guy & you shouldn't feel like it. Thank you so much for your kind words - you are so sweet. To answer you, yes, my FI has talked to them, but they don't listen!!!!! It's unbelievable how narrow minded they have been through all of this. You are right, I need to sit down and convey everything in hopes that they will listen. And yes, my FI definitely wants the wedding in Mexico - he is all in:) Thanks again girl!

Quote: Originally Posted by Davematthews16 First of all I'm very sorry to hear about your dad. He will be in our thoughts an prayers Second of all, let me get this strait: You are the one paying for the wedding and they've talked you out of Mexico and into Oklahoma? WTF? I know you are stressed out but you MUST remember that this is YOUR day and it's about you and your man, NO ONE ELSE! Yes family is important, but when it comes to your wedding day, you should stick to your guns and get married where your heart wants to. What does your FI say about it all? I would do what most of us are doing and get married in Mexico and have an AHR in your home town. It's not fair that you are this stressed over it Remember, everyone always thinks they know what's best for you, and everyone always has a "better" idea for you, but you are the only one who really knows. I think you will regret it forever if you don't get married where you want. Girl, you are so sweet. Thank you! Yep, it's craziness!!!!!!!!!!! I just sent my FI to the liquor store for some Rum! It just really hurts that this is supposed to be an event of love, and they dish out B.S.!!!!!!!! I think that the ultimate feeling is rejection, and then all that I'm going through, it just sucks! My fiance agrees with all the responses, as do I. I think I'm going to write a letter (very appapro) tp convey my feelings. Thanks again, you rock.

Quote: Originally Posted by jpitts78 I hate when families do that... this your and your FI's day. Do what will make the both of you happy. Unfortunately you will not be able to make everyone happy, but still this is YOUR day, not theirs. It will suck that they are going to bitch and complain... and as well, if you are paying for it, make it the way you guys want and invite only those you want... if FMIL wants others to be there, she can pay for it then? I just read all the postings to my FI, and he totally agrees. I feel so much better that others are on the same page with me. Sometimes it's hard to see the forrest through the trees. Thank you for your kind words!

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari Oh no, this is tough. Firstly, have the wedding you want. If you want it in Mexico, then do it! For some reason families tend to get all crazy about DWs. Don't let it get you down!!! I am sorry about your father! Thanks, girl, I appreciate it.

Quote: Originally Posted by soontobeamrs I am hosting a website with weddingwindow and you can create an email list, send as many e-announcements as you want. You can even send an email to let people know that you have new info on your site! If you are trying to save money, you could have people RSVP on your site or have them call you if they don't use the internet. MY FI was totally for this idea and it could work depending on your group. The site is inexpensive and easy to use! Highly recommended for DWs. There are some free websites too- don't know a ton about them, but mine cost $99. I decided to skip the paper STD- but if you wanted to do that I think it is really cute when people send a magnet... there are a ton of places to get them made online and they are pretty cheap- you can even get magnet paper from Staples and print them yourself. Then just use that adhesive to attach it to a notecard and send them off! Hope that helps. Good luck! Thanks!!!!!!!!!

Hello girls, I hope you all are having a great day. Ufortunately, I am sick to my stomach with things that I have been dealing with for a while, and feel that this forum is where I can turn to get some advice. My fiance proposed to me in March of this year. We are madly in love, he treats my 6-year old son as his own, we have a 6-year age difference (i'm 33, he's 26) he is very mature, my family & friends love him. As soon as we got engaged I began planning our wedding. This is my second (and final) wedding, while this is his first (and final:)). My dream wedding has always been to marry in Mexico, as I am Mexican, and it is very spirtitual and sacred to me. As such we began planning for a destination wedding in Riviera Maya. When we announced our plans to his family they went crazy. First, we had to change our wedding date 4-times to accomodate his mother's travel schedule as she is a professional artist, and has several shows. Once we set a date, she threw a fit, becuase she would be out of town-the date has been scheduled for June 13, 2009. With the new date set she is still upset beuase it still interferes with her travel. Back to them going crazy. They have persistent on changing our mind to having a wedding in Oklahoma City; his mom, his brothers, and his dad all say that this is what "I" want, and that it has nothing to do with him, while he completely wants it just the same. They are giving guilt trips left and right-it's bad!!!!!! They want us to have it in their backyard (in a small country town, no trees, nothing appealing) and have them provde food and drinks. They keep saying what about everyone else that wants to attend! No one in his family attended our engagement party either except for his dad.....I come from a big family where we all come together, and support each other even if we don't agree on things. So a month ago, I changed the wedding from Mexico to be here in Oklahoma. The planning was going to cost us well over $20,000.00, keep in mind I am the one paying for our wedding, nobody but me. So one night I asked myself "What the f*ck am I doing?" I'm trying to make others happy, instead of do what I have always dreampt of. So I cancelled that and now we are back on track to marry in Mexico. However, now his mom is throwing another guilt trip, becuase she wants all of her friends to attend and other people that I have never met. I am planning on having a reception back home, but she is still not happy with that. I am sick to my stomach, because she will not talk to me (she's never tried to get to know me), and my dad is currently losing his battle with kidney failure so I am completely stressed! I don't know what to do anymore or how to handle her. What should I say? What can I do? I feel like the bad person here, and anything we try to say to them they shut us off. Should I wright a letter? Please help. Sorry for being so long winded. April

They look really nice! How did you create your Save The Date? I want to send mine out next week, but am on a strict budget....Any suggestions? xo

Quote: Originally Posted by STACEY That is such a cute story. Congrats!!!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

On the eve of Spring Solstice, March 20, 2008.....the Story begins. Patrick and April decided to carpool together on this day, with Patrick dropping off April at her office. April was not in the best mood this day, as they had a small argument....more less waking up on the wrong side of the bed. As the day went on April thought it strange that she hadn’t received her usual phone call from Patrick, after all it was spring break and he was at work and he always calls just to say hi. April called Patrick several times a little worried that the argument from earlier may have him upset. When she called his work they informed her that he was busy with a customer or was simply "unavailable." Patrick called April back around 4:30 p.m., and told her that he was on his way to pick her up from work. April said she would be downstairs waiting for him. 4:45 p.m. came, then 5:00...April decided to go back inside her office building and wait for Patrick inside the restaurant while having an after work cocktail.....5:15 Patrick walks into the restaurant, sits down, apologizes for being late and is suddenly in a hurry to leave. At this point April is not really connecting the dots....and she asks, "Why the rush?" Patrick replies, "Dexter is at home waiting for us," Dexter is their new puppy. So with that being said they tab out and head home. The Proposal April walks into their home first, and is greeted at the door by Dexter - they began to play. Patrick walks into the house, when April says, "You're cooking fish for dinner, I can smell it," Patrick responds with....."Um, no, not fish." Then April sits on the couch and looks forward in the direction of their dining room.... The room is dark with candles everywhere, every available space was a lit candle, the table was adorned with rose petals, the floor was covered with rose petals, the table had two vases filled with red, white, pink, and yellow roses.....the table did not have fish, but a beautiful dinner of crab legs, stuffed crab, shrimp, vegetables, salad, and Champagne....and the ceiling.....the ceiling had dozens of roses that looked as if they were falling from the sky (hanging by invisible string and invisible tape) and throughout were photographs of Patrick and April from the day they met until present; they were double sided and hanging from the ceiling with the same as the roses.... April is not sure what Patrick is doing at this point, because she is in total shock and thinking that this is all an apology from the morning's disagreement...she's in awe over EVERYTHING and can't believe her eyes....it was like a scene from the Bachelor, lol! April then notices a huge telescope set up in the corner of the living room, and turns to Patrick and asks, "What is going on?" He then points to her table setting and on her plate was a hand written note that read: You are the center of my life, one who I cannot live without. Light is what you bring me. My world revolves around you, so I named a star for you to shine forever in the sky. You are everything to me. Patrick then grabbed April's hand, turned her towards him and he got down on one knee, and said, "April Dawn, you are everything to me; I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?" And she said, YES! And so it is written and so it shall be!

Welcome to the forum! I too am thinking of getting married at Excellence, or at The Tides and we will just stay at Excellence. Have you received any information on their weddings that you can share with me?

I'm looking at booking my wedding at The Tides, and I received all information immediately via internet. You can have your wedding there without staying there. You DO NOT need to have any certain number of occupancy whatsoever. I will be more than happy to forward you or anyone information that I have as it was updated this ummer, and they have been very respondent to all my emails. Note, you will have to manage all details yourself or through your own wedding coordinator, as they do not have an on-site coordinator, but they do have a Service Coordinator who will assist you with your menus, bar packages, and set-up.

Quote: Originally Posted by Nrvsbride April that's a really nice pic in your signature! Thank you momma!!

sounds like something i would do - chauck it up as hilarious!

Quote: Originally Posted by scrappinsensation Hi, April! I am new too, just joined yesterday, and I have been looking into PDC today (yesterday it was Cancun... so many choices!) Our wedding date is June 13, 2009 as well!! Very cool! Welcome!!!! That is so exciting that we share the same wedding day! I have a lot of recommendations and information that I am more than happy to share with you. I MUST decide on a location by the end of next week-no excuses!!!!! Let me know if I can help with anything, I have a ton of links and information stored that I am more than happy to send your way.

Thank you!!!

Welcome! I'm getting married 6/13/2009 in Playa, and I too am still searching! Good luck!

Welcome!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by MsShelley welcome to the forum Thank you so much!

Thank you for the welcome message! Hope to keep in touch, and share our stories and ideas.

I am completely new to this site, and am having a difficult time finding my way around; which is odd, since I am computer savvy and write html. Please wish me well! I see all of these great postings, and responses to my newbie post, but am unsure how to respond or if I am responding correctly. If anyone out there can read this, please help me. I would love to work with everyone on here for my upcoming wedding-ugh the agony of planning!

Hey, everyone! My name is April and I live in Tulsa, OK, I found this website by browsing the internet and I already love it. I'm planning a wedding for June 13, 2009, in Riviera Maya, Mexico. Hope to share ideas with you all!