BC Bride2be

very cute bags, love the stamp!

Welcome to the forum Jamie!! Happy Planning!

WOW that is incredible, you did an amazing job!!

Thanks Jen! I get what you are saying, but I have been there for her - for the past two years. I have had long conversations (many) about her life and where it is going, I have supported her 100+% and only hope for the same.. this time for once, its not about her and I wish she would see that, that’s all. Thanks again Quote: Originally Posted by Jennifer Davis You should try and talk to her and give her some sisterly support. I know it is supposed to be about you right now, but unfortuately, it sounds like she may not be fully healed from her divorce. You said it - she's unhappy. She's sad. Even if it was her idea to end the marriage she still may feel some sense of failure that it didn't work out. I'm sure you did a great job trying to help and support her but two years is not a long time to get over something like a divorce. I think shutting her out if the worst thing you can do for her right now. Maybe you can speak to your Mom and ask her to help out with your sister? I'm sure she is very happy for you on the inside but is having trouble coming to grips with alll her emotions - the happy ones for you and the sad ones about her marriage. It's probably easier for her to step back rather than step up knowing it may remind her of her own situation right now.

Congrats & Welcome to the forum!!

Welcome to the forum Olivera!! Happy Planning!

Congrats Caitlin!! & welcome to the forum!

Welcome to the forum Dave!! Happy Planning!!

Congrats Brynn & welcome to the forum!

Welcome to the forum & Happy Planning!!

Quote: Originally Posted by christenew I have started packing and my FI just laughs at me. I think he is getting excited though. He actually dropped his suit off to get hemmed without me saying anything. Meeeeee toooooo!! The suitcases are out and I just purchased some plastic bins to pack all the toiletries & liquids!! And for the first time I saw panic in my FI's face this morning (sorry but hehehe)lol as it dawned on him that he still doesn't have a shirt (i've only mentioned this to him ummm about a thousand times). He bought one a few weeks ago but it so doesn't work with his suit, he needs to get his butt out there and find another one!! lol

She’s definitely not jealous. As for why she isn’t thrilled - I’m really not sure, our whole life she’s been a naysayer. She went thru a divorce two years ago (her decision to end the marriage) and is extremely unhappy. I spent months coaching her through the transition to single hood, supporting her emotionally/financially.. I am at a lost. But you’re right, it would be wrong for me to tell her down there in front of our friends & family that she isn’t a witness; that would make me just as selfish/rude as she has been and I don’t want that. Thanks ladies for helping me see beyond the anger/hurt..

mines a alfred angelo bridesmaid dress that I ordered in ivory..you should check him out, lots of knee length dresses. Good luck!! Attachment 2929

Welcome to the forum Angelina!! & Happy planning!

Welcome to the forum Suzanne & Happy Planning!

Wow, you guys did a great job, it looks amazing!!

Welcome to the forum & Happy Planning!!

Congrats & welcome to the forum! Happy planning!

wow, that is crazy that you had to convince her that it wasn't ok. thank goodness you took before pics.

Congrats & welcome to the forum!!

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride I say dance when you want to dance!! It's your wedding and you can do what you want!! I personally (well...we!) will be doing our dance right after the ceremony. We'll be doing a toast...then right into the dance! It helps that our ceremony location will be on a clifftop gazebo overlooking the ocean!! It's just such a beautiful spot that I couldn't imagine dancing our first song as husband & wife anywhere else!! WOW, that is the most amazing spot to have your first dance, I am so envious how romantic it is!! can't wait to see your pics

Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride That's awful!!! And the fact that you are paying for her to come is even worse!! It's an awful feeling when you are so happy about what's going on in your life and the people closest to you act like they could care less. I don't think that you should announce your mother at your welcome dinner - this could cause your sis to act out and ruin the rest of your day...or even week. I would do it prior to leaving - & explain to her why you are doing that. She might not even realize what she's doing, or how it's making you feel. Just my opinion. Thanks Amanda, I know you are right and I should say something before but I don’t even know where to start with her. She will deny it and try and turn it around on me, I think what I have to do is write it down and maybe email it to her. It’s like you said, it’s so sad when friends & family show no joy in what is to be your happiest moment in life - it is most overwhelmingly heartbreaking.

My sister is one of my witnesses (we’re not having a wedding party) but has shown absolutely no interest in the wedding. In the 8 months that I have been planning she has not asked me once how things are going, if I needed any help – nothing!! And the few times I have started talking about what I am doing she immediately changes the subject. I have been so upset about this [and at times angry] that I now don’t want her to be a witness and would rather instead have my mother. So I am thinking that once we get down there at the welcome dinner, when we introduce the guests and witnesses… I will just say my mother and girlfriend. I know this is extremely bitchy but I can’t help it…she probably won’t care anyway. oh and one other thing that is irritating the crap out of me is that my FI and I are paying for her to come grrrrrrrrrr…what a waste of $1800. Wow that felt good to get it out. Thanks for listening to me rant.

Casey, your dress is perfect. I don't think you need to add anything!

super cute! I love it