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darn it, tried to scare Erik with this news and he said He knew/read about it already. He says he is not addicted because he can moderate his time....

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak I hate video games. My ex used to play Everquest 24/7 and it got to the point where he just wouldn't leave the house. He sat in the computer room, smoking pot and playing that damn game all day & night. With him, there wasn't a way to fix it. On the rare occasion when I could pry the keyboard from his fingers to go out, he was so moody and going thru "withdrawals", that I relented and started going out on my own, with my own friends. Here's a little passive aggressive "fun" for you tho: Go to his computer when he's in the bathroom. Press these keys simultaneously: Control, Alt, and the down arrow key. This will shift his PC screen upside down. Good luck to him on figuring that one out!!! lolololol....good one Maria, but if I did that he would probably figure it out (remember Erik is a computer guy) or maybe he wouldn't... and he also plays this on his Mac

Quote: Originally Posted by Christa Ugh Drea, that sucks! He needs a total intervention. Isn't it so gay when all of these guys get together & play games - I like to call that a circle jerk. No computers this weekend!! no computers this weekend!!!! I'm going to chant that lol, No computers this weekend!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Christa Oh girrrrrl!!! You know, this is one of those things that kind of builds over time I think. At first it's something he does when you aren't home just to pass the time, next thing you know you've got an addict on your hands. It's like a drug (hey, at least it's not porn!) Rafael gets stuck on things sometimes - like a flight simulator game, or working on something in the garage. It's nice that they have hobbies, cuz that gives you time for yours. But when you are feeling neglected and a pissed off like you are now, and he's not doing work because he's addicted to the damn game, then I think you definitely need to do something. You just have to be up front with him & give him a little tough love. Let him know what you are seeing - because he may not see it since he's so wound up in the game. Point out the things that are being neglected (YOU, work, etc), and how it's making you feel - in a non-confrontational way if at all possible Also, I will kick him for you when you get here Christa, Please do (kick him) and tell him for me.... I try to talk but then it turns into an argument. I need someone else to sit down with him with me to talk to him....

Quote: Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian DH doesn't play WoW, but he has some other computer game that he plays that he is this SAME way with. Although right now he's moved on to obsessing over some game he got for Wii. It is sooo obnoxious though. I swear I have thoughts of breaking his computer when he's at work. I only use the computer when DH is sleeping, at work or not paying attention to me because he's occupied with the game... and I feel like I'm on too much as it is. So when we are actually home at the same time and awake at the same time (which is rare), I'd like to spend time with my husband. But nooooo. I think he should have married his games instead. And yeah, definitely no computers to Seattle! Don't let him try to sneak it out of the house. Oh Jessica trust me, if he asks to bring his computer I will throw a shitfit. I also think he should have married this game....he's with it alllllllll time.

Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne That is so frustrating!!! Martin used to love to play his car racing video games which drove me crazy but I expressed my frustration and now he rarely does. However, I can't complain too much because we are going to get a Wii whenever one becomes available so I'm sure we'll both be addicted to that for a little while Also, Martin used to get really upset with me when I first joined BDW cause I could not get off this site!!! hahaha Once he let me know how he was feeling I really had to limit my time on here when he was around. I think communication is very important in this situation - if Erik doesn't listen to your feelings about this then I'd be pretty frustrated!! Jaime I have talked to him, telling him it drives me nuts, we used to go to the rock gym to climb and we used to go see movies and such but the game is taking over. He tells me I'm bitching, I'm complaining to much...That he is not on that often, it's his form of relaxation..blahblahblah. Well after our big fight he tells me fine you can have Sats. Then goes around saying to everyone Sorry guys Andrea won't let me play today because it's her day. I came up to him the other day and asked him to throw away the trash and he said ok....3 hours later the trash isn't thrown away. I tell him to go do it but he always says wait I have to get to a safety spot, which lasts for another 30mins.... He is grumpy all the time, especially when I ask him to get off of it. Even my best friend notices it. I have no clue how to fix this. Quote: Originally Posted by Lizz Sorry Drea, I have no suggestions because I'm in sorta the same boat; so I'm listening to any ideas anyone may have! Mike is constantly playing pinochle online (I know, he's a dork....lol!). He walks in from work and it's the first thing he does, then he proceeds to play all night unless I FORCE him to go to the gym or eat dinner or something. What really annoys me about this is that when he's playing, he nods his head or says "uh huh" to whatever I'm saying, but I know he doesn't hear a word. I've been bitching at him for about a year now to no avail. Unfortunately, ever since I joined BDW, he says right back to me that I'm on the computer too much and don't pay attention to him. Oh I can sooo relate! My tired of this.

The garbage is where that donation would be going to .... How Rude!!!

Ok....so I can't stand the computer game World of War Craft!!!! Erik is on it 24/7!!!!! He plays everynight till about 2 to 3 am and then goes to bed and wakes up to work (supposedly) but is playing the stupid game. So yesterday he calls me telling me his co-worker will be coming to out house to do some work because they have a deadline for tomorrow to meet and he was stressing out about some work..... Well his co-worker is here, came here at 8:30am.... our dog is whining to come into the room they are working in and so I get up to open the door to let her in and instead of seeing them work on work they are playing the stupid game!!!!!!!! UGG!!!! I'm leaving this house right now, he is soooooo frustrating. When we go to Seattle this weekend he is not allowed to play that stupid game....NOPE Sorry!!!! his damn computer is staying home!!!!! This is also one of our complaints....he plays the damn thing everyday, so finally I had to tell him SAT. are my days and you can't play it. HE NEVER WAS LIKE THIS BEFORE!!!! Help what do I do.

I like how you spent your NYE!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR we didn't have pics beforehand, so i can't help there! but if there are any pics that you really think it's important that the wedding band is on - maybe you can put it on temporarily. but i can't imagine you'd even notice in most pics - would you? as for during the ceremony - that's exactly what i did. i had my e-ring on the whole time. then the band came on during the ceremony. at some point soon after the ceremony, i flipped them - but i can't remember when! lol Ditto with regards to Ann's comment

mememememememe......but I'm going to go see a personal trainer with Rebecca on Wed. then I'm back to eating junk LOL.....

Hooray Jaime, I was starting to read this thread and start crying for you too until I continued and saw you decided to go....So happy for you! You're going to check out the Mayan Palace in PV right? Will its very pretty...I love the pools... I know you guys will have a great time.

Heidi, I'm soooooooooo happy for you!!!!! Hooray, take the job and run away from your current job... Then we can all come back with you later to laugh in your old boss's face, sorry is that too cruel, I apologize.

Hooray, everyone got their gifts!!!!!!!! Ok going to Elfster to sign up....and starting a new thread for Valentines Day LOL , no seriously I am....Look for the thread, setting up now.

Quote: Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 Drea - i am in for the Valentine's Day but i would suggest 2 things: 1. maybe do a $15 or $20 gift 2. that we use elfster (not that you didn't do an AMAZING job) but it is so easy to use and if you are the 'organizer' you can still have total control if someone doesn't send their gift you can look up who had them, hence any necessary consequences. One of the main reasons i love elfster is that you can set up a wishlist, modify it, put direct links, etc BUT you can send anonymous questions to your secret santa or gift person. EX. i had Melissa and really wanted to buy her these fuzzy slippers but she never put her size - with Elfster i could ask her anonymously what size feet she had, etc. i have used it for 3 secret santa's this holiday and everyone LOVES it!!! ok Alyssa, I will look into it and set up an account so we can do it this way because I know there might be more people signing up this time ....I will make a Thread starting Jan. about Valentines Hooray Jaime got her gift...love it.... I'm so glad this went well

you girls are too funny. Ok Yes, let's wait for Jaime to get her gift....Then....once that happens I'll set up a list for Valentines day. Is that ok with everyone? It would be the same rules....$25 gift...not including shipping...and we'll make a list again... if it's ok with you girls...we'll do it

Quote: Originally Posted by LadyP What about a secret valentine and a secret easter bunny and dont forget the secret leprechaun. hehehehe. I can do one every month That's a great idea if anyone is interested ....I love getting and giving gifts

Hooray!!! we actually have one more person to receive their gift should be on it's way. I'm so glad everyone got their gifts. I'm so glad this worked Thank you girls for participating. Have a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year. Yes, I would love to be in charge of this again next year

hmmmm, well I snuck my Jack Russell Terrier mix into our apartment and she seems happier. The only thing is I think she is in love with Erik. Seriously she can't get enough of him. It's like an obsession, she doesn't do this to any other guys. Both Erik and I think in a past life she and Erik were lovers or something....it's funny but scary. She will lay with me and love me just out of spite but when Erik gives any attention to her she goes psycho. LOL. hmmm it would be fun to know what she's thinking.

I love this idea...I'm planning to do it too, just need to get started. We are planning to do one for my parents and Erik's parents. Pictures of our wedding in Cabo.... Procrastinating though....will do this weekend. Thank you for the great idea.

cool.... so much fun

hmmm I don't know, I would say if you had a car and maybe a little bit more time (sorry Catherine), then you can take the 10fwy to Santa Monica to the pier. The pier has a fun zone with rides right on the beach.... around the Westin I'm not sure what fun things there is to do..... I'm most likely going to be in that area visiting my sister and can meet you guys for lunch or a drink...., that would be fun. Sorry not much help.

Congrats Kate, Have a wonderful day

Quote: Originally Posted by beachbride it could be me, I haven't received mine either! Quote: Originally Posted by Heidi ...fabulous idea! We can definitely narrow it down, haha! Quote: Originally Posted by JaimeLynne Hmmm, we'll have to do some detective work then Heidi. hahahaha....You girls are too funny. I promise your gifts are on their way, I'm making sure of it ....

Hooray, Almost everyone's got their gift!!!!! Thank goodness....Great gifts everyone!