Future sis-in-law driving me crazy!!

My FI and I decided to completely ignore anyone who says or does anything stupid. They can say and ask all they want, but they're not getting their way. Its our wedding and we're doing this our way. Furthermore, there are some family members on his side that are having some issues...so we're making them sign a contract that if they make us angry, sad or frustrated they're no longer going to be invited to the wedding.

Oh that stinks. Everyone has said this and I never understood it until I got engaged and started planning: "Weddings bring out the worst in people." It is so true. I'm sure her intent wasn't to be mean, ?? but I dont know her so ca't make that call. But I've learned that the best thing to do is nod and smile ;o) lol In the end you call the shots so screw everyone else.

I even heard crap b/c I decided NOT to have a destiantion wedding!! hahah SO either way, people will add their two cents no mater what you do.

I completely agree with both of you. And it's sad that the church does not "update" their beliefs because extremely tradional catholics only follow what the priest's preach. My FI parents will not have it any other way if it's not what the Catholic church allows!

My FI have not lived together (which his parents are thrilled about) but we recently put an offer on a house and it was accepted. Now that we are going through escrow, they truely believe we won't be living together until the wedding date. Excuse me, but if I'm paying a mortgage now, I'm for sure living their no matter what they say. The only reason I had not moved in with him before was because I live only a few blocks away from work compared to where he lives which would have taken me over an hour.

Ooh, good luck with this one! We had some nay sayers at my wedding as well, but here's the thing - they are going to go - have the absolute time of their lives and be thanking you after it's over.

In regards to the invite issue - tell your MIL and SIL that if they want extra invites to go out - they need to get off their butts and help put them together. Maybe that will shut them up!

The other thing to consider is, no matter if you're doing the wedding at home or a DW, people are going to complain. Weddings seem to drum up stupid baggage and when you're dealing with someone elses family, it just doubles the trouble!

I feel for you! My god mother keeps asking me if I am going to cover my shoulders during mass. How dare I get married wearing a strapless dress, in puerto vallarta, in July at 4 in the afternoon, with no air conditioning, WITHOUT wearing a shawl!

p.s. I wonder if I am related to your FI, my last name is Martin and I have a huge traditional mexican family living in L.A. Sorry, just being nosey, lol.