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Hey ladies

 

Ok don't laugh, but I'm stumped on this.

 

We are working on our thank you cards and I'm wondering if you mention the actual gift they gave you in your message or not? If yes and it was money, what terminology do you use? Ie -- monetary gift.

 

Thanks for all input!!

 

 

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I usually mention the gift if it was a thing, if it was money I usually say "thank you for your generous gift. We look forward to be able to use it for an awesome honeymoon (new table, night out, etc)"

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We had that situation too. Almost everything was money. I second the "generous gift" or monetary gift. That works, but definitely state what you "plan" to put it towards. You don't say that it will help you pay off your wedding or something to that effect even if that's what you think you might do. You just say you're putting it towards a downpayment for a home, or honeymoon, etc.

 

I'm really happy to see all the ladies here working at or talking about thank you cards. We were invited to a wedding last year and in the end, didn't go. We still sent a card with a pretty generous cash amount in it. I've known the bride since she was 10 so about 15 years, or slightly more. We see the bride and groom and her parents all the time. They're good friends of ours. But we never received a thank you card at all. I know her mother was advocating that the bride send them. The mother is Iranian and the daughter was born there, but here since age 2. She still insists that in their culture you don't write thank you cards. In fact, to my face I've never received a thank you for what we sent. From her mother yes, from the bride no. My point is that she isn't in iran. She's here and here it's the proper thing to do. I'm actually quite disgusted about it all because my honest feeling is that it's laziness and nothing more. This was a bride too that stewed over the fact that she didn't get enough money as a gift from her bridesmaids, apparently "not even enough to cover the cost of her dinner". 

 

Ladies - please remember your etiquette when it comes to your wedding. Maybe the young people of today don't care about manners but if you have older people attending your wedding, it's very likely they do. If your friends couldn't care less if they get a thank you card or not, that's fine. But your older generation people, like me, believe that it's the right thing to do. I can almost guarantee you that when our friend's daughter decides to have a baby, it's highly unlikely we would send a gift, especially if a simple thank you isn't going to be part of it.

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We had that situation too. Almost everything was money. I second the "generous gift" or monetary gift. That works, but definitely state what you "plan" to put it towards. You don't say that it will help you pay off your wedding or something to that effect even if that's what you think you might do. You just say you're putting it towards a downpayment for a home, or honeymoon, etc.

 

I'm really happy to see all the ladies here working at or talking about thank you cards. We were invited to a wedding last year and in the end, didn't go. We still sent a card with a pretty generous cash amount in it. I've known the bride since she was 10 so about 15 years, or slightly more. We see the bride and groom and her parents all the time. They're good friends of ours. But we never received a thank you card at all. I know her mother was advocating that the bride send them. The mother is Iranian and the daughter was born there, but here since age 2. She still insists that in their culture you don't write thank you cards. In fact, to my face I've never received a thank you for what we sent. From her mother yes, from the bride no. My point is that she isn't in iran. She's here and here it's the proper thing to do. I'm actually quite disgusted about it all because my honest feeling is that it's laziness and nothing more. This was a bride too that stewed over the fact that she didn't get enough money as a gift from her bridesmaids, apparently "not even enough to cover the cost of her dinner". 

 

Ladies - please remember your etiquette when it comes to your wedding. Maybe the young people of today don't care about manners but if you have older people attending your wedding, it's very likely they do. If your friends couldn't care less if they get a thank you card or not, that's fine. But your older generation people, like me, believe that it's the right thing to do. I can almost guarantee you that when our friend's daughter decides to have a baby, it's highly unlikely we would send a gift, especially if a simple thank you isn't going to be part of it.

 

Oh I totally agree!!  I also feel that is quite rude and I can't wait to get our thank you cards out so they know how much we appreciate it.  We said thank you A LOT at the resort but we want to ensure they know we really do care and that we have opened their cards/gifts, etc.

 

Since we are on this topic, here is another question.   I thought I should give a thank you card to everyone who gave us something at one point or another - so, to my friend who gave me a gift card for my bachelorette, my work/various coworkers who chipped in for the gift card they gave me, etc. I do send them a card too right or is an in person thank you enough?  I wasn't sure if you used the wedding thank you card or maybe another one?

 

Thanks!

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I hate people who don't write thank you'd for things like this! I couldn't attend a friends wedding so sent a generous gift and got radio silence in reply ( also the ones that refused to respond to my texts, rsvp about my wedding and the wife is going to PV like literally a few weeks before my wedding lol..., I heard through the grapevine they were mad I didnt "make enough effort " to attend theirs although I had already had out of country plans for a year) I digress. Anyways Kim, I think a thank you card is warranted for the bachelorette card hmm but then again I wonder what the etiquette is for that as I am having mine this weekend and now am questioning writing them. for the work maybe you can make one thank you and post it on a bulletin board or something? I had thank you'd made on vista print with starfish, our color, and our names in order to give them out for the wedding shower stuff but you can probably just use the ones you are getting?

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Absolutely! Anyone that sent or gave you a gift should get a proper thank you! For work I would pick a main person (HR maybe?) to send the card to, but say to all of my work friends, or to all my colleagues, or something like that. We have a board at work where things like that get posted so everyone does eventually see it. if you're doing a photo card, for sure I would send one! What better way to acknowledge that they did something for your wedding than to send a wedding photo of the two of you!

 

We did both. Because the photos took about a month and a half at least, I bought thank you cards and sent them right away (within two weeks) for all the gifts we received. Then I did a Vistaprint folding card with "Our Wedding" on the front in the colours that we used, and the details of our Jamaica wedding, since no one was there, written on the inside then attached a 2x3 photo inside it and sent those out.

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Absolutely! Anyone that sent or gave you a gift should get a proper thank you! For work I would pick a main person (HR maybe?) to send the card to, but say to all of my work friends, or to all my colleagues, or something like that. We have a board at work where things like that get posted so everyone does eventually see it. if you're doing a photo card, for sure I would send one! What better way to acknowledge that they did something for your wedding than to send a wedding photo of the two of you!

 

We did both. Because the photos took about a month and a half at least, I bought thank you cards and sent them right away (within two weeks) for all the gifts we received. Then I did a Vistaprint folding card with "Our Wedding" on the front in the colours that we used, and the details of our Jamaica wedding, since no one was there, written on the inside then attached a 2x3 photo inside it and sent those out.

 

Thank you, I thought so but wanted to ask.

I only ordered 25 cards from Shutterfly, so maybe for the work one I will do a generic thank you card as I don't think I will have enough!!  But everyone will get something :)

 

I almost used Vistaprint (would have been cheaper) but I really liked on Shutterfly that you could put a group photo on the inside top of the card and have the bottom blank for writing.  Couldn't seem to figure out how to do this with Vistaprint!

 

My order was $50 but after exchange was $65 ouch!

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I know. I've just done our deposits to Azul Fives, Styling Trio and Samuel Luna and I think the extra with the exchange for all three was enough to almost pay someone else their deposit! it's crazy! I know it means we'll be seeing the grandkids less often if this keeps up! It may change summer vacation plans too!!

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Yes it's bad!! I'm sooo thankful the resort took peso as payment of fees or I'd probably still be crying.

 

 

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@@calgarybride2015 I agree with the previous comments. "Thank you" for gifts should mention the gift and what you will do with it. "Thank you" for money should include a comment about what you will use it for. And, a thank you should be sent for all gifts along the way, even if it is a generic thank you card! Congrats on your wedding!

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