There are no rules, I think people just do what they are comfortable with!
If you chose to do their attire for them, that is more than enough! I chose to do gifts instead of attire. Everyone is different. I know people who were in bridal parties that got nothing whatsoever, which I don't feel is right. Especially for a destination wedding when they spend a lot more time & money to come!
An excursion is also a nice thank you. Just remember, whatever you give will be a appreciated whether it be clothes, jewelry, trinkets, excursions. It's your way of saying thanks! I think it's nice to do something they will enjoy and/or use again!
I know people who attended a DW and never got a favor - really everyone is different. It's what's important to you and what you are comfortable doing. Doesn't have to big or over the top. I was very much that way when doing favors! Yes noone is going to use a maraca again, BUT, I decided to go for a keepsake that was cute but not over the top wedding related (ie a coaster with our picture on it - lol - no offense to anyone doing this, I was really reluctant to plaster our wedding info on things)
A lot of people either do an OOT idea or a favor -- some do both. It's really up to you! It's just a keepsake for them.
We chose to do maracas, then I got really excited about the tumbler cups so I did those too with a hangover kit inside. That was my 'splurge' item that I stretched my budget for. I will have a lot of suitcases full of stuff that is forsure, but I am happy with what we are doing. We decided to send the luggage tags early for the practicality of using them but also less to pack! (this was actually my original favor idea but changed my mind)
As for gifts - I am doing my bridal party but no parents. Everyone will get the same wedding favors.
PS- I have only been to 2 weddings. One as a teenager, another as a BM. So I have no idea how things go down. I can only base it on that one wedding as an adult. So a lot of my original decisions were based on that, but the more I go along the more I realize that doesn't have to be and/or that isn't me, etc. Hindsite I would have sat on some decisions a little longer, but such is life.
Edited by calgarybride2015, 11 September 2014 - 07:36 AM.