So I just need to get this out - my FI is flying home from the States and isn't here to talk about all this. I'm literally losing my mind.
When I started arrangements for my wedding, I had my TA (a friend) block off 15 rooms for guests. I had 15 rooms invited for sure. Of those 15, I was sure I had a guaranteed 10 rooms - the minimum for our group discount.
Also, of those 15 were my aunt, my FIs aunt and uncle - both of whom we were not sure could come. 1 room was set aside for my cousin, as we were going to pay for him to come and do our photos. I left a buffer of one person in case of an unexpected decline.
My cousin's gf is going to have a baby (his) by our wedding date so he is out.
Now, I have had that decline (a friend of mind who didnt work for a year and is only doing a one year contract now - watching finances). I have had another set of friends (the TAs) tell me they can't book because they are trying to have a baby. My brother is pissed at me and won't book before the deadline. I have a least one other friend that is a question mark.
For everyone counting - I only have 7 out of 10 rooms booked and we are only 7 days from deadline (and 3 from when I told people it was). Meaning no group discount.
Even worse - I have run some searches online and can't seem to find any trips for our week to that resort - looks booked up. We already have people booked coming from England (booking on their own).
So now - we have a block of 15 rooms. I am either forcing my guests to pay more (which may or may not be possible) without the group discount or book on their own. But judging from the info online, booking on their own will be difficult and we may wind up with some people not being able to get rooms.
If my guests can't get rooms - we'll have to cancel the wedding as a lot of these people are important to me and I wouldn't get married without them.
I'm extremely upset. My friend who is trying for a baby said that she and her husband knew for awhile they would start trying in September. I got engaged at the end of July and set our date the first week of August and she didn't bother to tell me then so I could plan! The people I depended on to be there and who were all gung ho about this wedding are now backing out and completely screwing me.
I have zero idea of what to do right now. At best, my TA friend is going to ask his friends if any of them want in on a group deal vacation for next year to save my ass. If that doesn't work, I'm lost.
All I've ever wanted was to have a small destination wedding with the people who are closest to me - relaxing, fun and memorable - and now its starting to look like that won't happen. I've been crying for the last half hour and still don't know what to do.