There are tons of threads about AHRs on here that are SO helpful. People plan things from traditional receptions to casual cookouts to everything in between.
We wanted to do it casual but it is becoming more structured as we get closer to the date; which we remind ourselves is okay, since it is what many of our family members will experience as our wedding, since so many cannot come to our DW. Oh well.
We are having supper for just the family (and a few very close friends). Buffet. Then we are playing a game (the shoe game!), showing a slide show and our wedding video, doing first dance and parent dance again, and opening it up to whoever for an open house idea. There will be a late-night lunch and drink tickets for the bar and dancing. My youngest brother is in a band and my dad is paying for them to play (a matter of contention, but oh well).
We are DIYing EVERYTHING except the dinner. All decor. There will be a dessert table; I am making all the desserts based on family recipes. If I can do it, I will, and I am pretty confident with a glue gun (or apron on!).
I am wearing my dress again, but going to pack along a white sundress just in case I feel like changing. FI is wearing his outfit I think (though he is toying with the idea of wearing his kilt, but I do not think he will).
We are having it in the small town I grew up in. My ENTIRE family lives there. There will be, like, 60-75 people for supper, and upwards of 200 for the open house. Way more than we wanted, but oh well... Good thing it is not our "real" wedding!