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#21 CindyLou

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    Posted 23 April 2013 - 03:23 PM

    Hi ladies! It sucks that people we want to have at our weddings won't be there. But, we (the couples getting married) have to remember, it's our day! We are marrying each other and a long as we are there together, anybody else is a bonus! I think this is part of having a destination wedding; it's very difficult to please everyone. We knew going into this that not everyone we wanted would be able to go and we both agreed that would be okay. I don't think I'll have a single person from my side there for different reasons. We are going to have a "celebration" when we get back so that those people can share with us. Make it about you two and don't let others ruin that! Best of luck!

    #22 mrs p 2 be

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      Posted 23 June 2013 - 01:48 AM

      well last night i had the future mother in law say something to me that reduced me to tears she wont have ment to upset me but her remark was so cutting am so over other peoples opinions xxx



      #23 Jenny2014

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        Posted 24 June 2013 - 07:45 AM

        Originally Posted by mrs p 2 be 

        well last night i had the future mother in law say something to me that reduced me to tears she wont have ment to upset me but her remark was so cutting am so over other peoples opinions xxx


        Agreed! Sorry she made you cry! Have you let her know her comment hurt you? If you really didn't meant to upset you, then maybe she will apologize?



        #24 mrs p 2 be

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          Posted 25 June 2013 - 06:30 AM

          no i havent told her shes not a huggy person so dont think i will get an apology just want to forget it really xx



          #25 LuluC

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            Posted 27 June 2013 - 10:04 AM

            Hey Brides!

             

            I'm getting married July 30th at GP Lady Hamilton and sad to say my Finace's family have been trouble since day one. 

             

            One piece of advise is that do NOT under any circumstance lower your standards/change your plans for a bunch of whiners.  Close family and friends should support your dreams especially regarding the biggest day of your lives.

             

            We have carried on with our plans, and when the whiner and complainers see you are not paying them any attention they will book and show up at your wedding.  I'm only a month away and still have people booking. (The same complainers and the lovely Fiance's mother who started a WWIII lol)

             

            What I have learned from this whole experience is some relatives/friends are very difficult people to begin with and are looking for reasons to complain and ruin people's moods.

             

            KEEP SMILING...  Don't let anyone dim your light or squash your wedding dreams.



            #26 Jessica Correa

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              Posted 01 July 2013 - 09:21 AM

              I am so done with people to. I am inviting everyone I want to be there but if no one shows up I am okay with that too. I just want my parents and the groom there. At that point, I have all I need and more :)



              #27 mrs p 2 be

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                Posted 02 July 2013 - 11:55 PM

                well we have changed some of the plans after mil comments i just thought i really dont want to look at her on the wedding day and to think she is thinking anything negative it would ruin my day im ok with the change now but do feel perhaps i might keep more details close to my chest  xx



                #28 Jessica Correa

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                  Posted 03 July 2013 - 10:09 AM

                  Originally Posted by mrs p 2 be 

                  well we have changed some of the plans after mil comments i just thought i really dont want to look at her on the wedding day and to think she is thinking anything negative it would ruin my day im ok with the change now but do feel perhaps i might keep more details close to my chest  xx

                   

                  haha that sounds like a plan. we do what we can but it is soooo difficult to please everyone. But we shouldn't have to be pleasing anyone but ourselves and the groom. Go figure.. -__-



                  #29 mrs p 2 be

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                    Posted 04 July 2013 - 02:12 PM

                    i now but i kind of guess we have to choose our battles and that was 1 i was not willing to have on the plus side one of my bridesmaids has been asking for jobs to do and getting really excited which is lovelly we go dress shopping for them on saturday xx



                    #30 Sherlohnes

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                      Posted 10 July 2013 - 04:53 AM

                      Originally Posted by LuluC 

                      Hey Brides!

                       

                      I'm getting married July 30th at GP Lady Hamilton and sad to say my Finace's family have been trouble since day one. 

                       

                      One piece of advise is that do NOT under any circumstance lower your standards/change your plans for a bunch of whiners.  Close family and friends should support your dreams especially regarding the biggest day of your lives.

                       

                      We have carried on with our plans, and when the whiner and complainers see you are not paying them any attention they will book and show up at your wedding.  I'm only a month away and still have people booking. (The same complainers and the lovely Fiance's mother who started a WWIII lol)

                       

                      What I have learned from this whole experience is some relatives/friends are very difficult people to begin with and are looking for reasons to complain and ruin people's moods.

                       

                      KEEP SMILING...  Don't let anyone dim your light or squash your wedding dreams.

                      Hi LuluC

                       

                      I'm getting Married at GPLH on July 23rd.  What day are you arriving?






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