I need to vent! I am getting married in July in Jamaica and my fiance "P" and I are so excited, we have been talking about having a destination wedding for as long as we can remember and both our families are thrilled and excited....or so I thought.
I lost my father when I was young and my relationship with my mom is distant. I grew up with my aunt and uncle and their 3 boys, whom I consider my brothers.
When I got engaged they threw P & I a lovely engagement dinner and I asked my uncle to walk me down the aisle (he was my dads best friend growing up and he married my dads little sister) he said yes and we all cried tears of happiness!.
I few weeks later (10 months before my wedding) my aunt tells me that for numerous reasons she doesnt think that her and my uncle can come to the wedding. Reasons being, its not in the time THEY like to take vacation, it's in the summer so its going to be hot at home and too hot in Jamaica. I let her know that we chose our date because its convenient for us...not for anyone else. and that I understand that by having a destination wedding I am asking a lot of my guests but all I ask is that they try and if they simply cannot make it, I will respect that.
My aunt suggested I have a wedding at home and just not invite too many ppl. I cannot do that as that would offend so many people and I do not want a wedding at home that will cost me an arm and a leg.
over the past few months I have noticed a major strain in our relationship. She only txt's or e-mails me. There are long awkward pauses when I call her on the phone and when we are in person wedding talk in NEVER brought up...in fact, she avoids any talk with me.
A few weeks ago we went over for my cousins birthday dinner and we gave out our wedding invitations ( a little early, but thats okay). She took my invitation, didn't say thank you and put the un-opened envelope in her mail pile. Everyone else was so excited and commented on how nice the invites turned out (P made them...he is so proud).
The other day my cousins g/f messaged me to tell me that she is so bothered by the constant complaining my aunt is doing over my wedding. She is saying that we should do it at home or change the date to suit their vacation schedule, she thinks we are catering to P's family. My cousins g/f told me she feels bad because my aunt is talking to my entire family and some are considering not coming. Not a single person has told me anything.
I don't know what to do or say! Am I walking myself down the aisle? I know I need to talk to her and my uncle but I have no idea what to say. P wants to talk to them too but I have a feeling that this will be the end of what was a really tight and happy relationship.
I never wanted this to happen.