friend vent... what would you do?
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:23 AM
I am so tired of being taken advantage of by a certain friend of mine.. Mostof you all know that I do hair, mostly on the side now because of my full time job..
Anyway, I have this certain friend wh up until 3 weeks ago called me on a daily basis, just talking asking about the wedding, blah, blah, blah...
So 3 weeks ago today, I was off and she asked me to do her hair, so of course I did it.. The whole time I was doing her hair, she was saying ok, when I am done I will write you a check, whatever...
So, don't think I am doing hair to make money off of my friends, because that is the last thing that I do...
So, anyway we get done her hair and she runs out the door, claiming how late she is picking up her daughter, and she will drop money off to me on her way out that night... So 3 hours later I call her to ask her how she likes it... She loves it and says well, I am just a little short this week...
And I should know better, this is the 4th time she has done this to me... I know people are a little short on money sometimes, but come on at least pay me for the freakin color that I spent MY money on!!!
And to put the cherry on top the freaking cake, she has not called me or anything since that night, how convenient... I just really feel so taken advantage of.... What would you do?
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:26 AM
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Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:29 AM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:29 AM
I know that money can cause all kinds of problems between friends and family, so this can be tricky. I would ask her again soon for the money (since it's been 3 weeks now, I'm sure she or her hubby have gotten a paycheck since the last time she saw you.) If you feel funny asking, just call her up and make some small talk, then sneak it in there at some point, "Oh yeah, btw, do you have the money for your hair from a few weeks ago. I can come by and get it from you later today."
Sorry you have to deal with this!!!
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:36 AM
People need to not take friends for granted that do those kinds of things for you. But so many people do take advantage of the friendship or take it for granted far too often.
How good of friends are you? Either really good and she expectes it or not nearly as good as she would like to have you believe and she is truly using you.
I can't give much advice, except to say that you are "booked up" from now on when she calls. That will get the message across loud and clear and she will either pay-up or go somewhere where 'being tight on cash' isn't an option, you know? But I do think you need to probably speak up to make it clear that is NOT the way friends do business with friends.
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:41 AM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:42 AM
Posted 09 October 2007 - 10:52 AM
What would I do....the old me would harrass her and try to make her feel stupid. These days I probably wouldn't say anything until she called me, at which time I would let her know she's shady. It's a waste of energy to deal with ingrates like her and look at it this way - it only cost you the price of hair dye to see her true colors and (possibly) get her out of your life. Maybe it's for the better?
In any case I definitely wouldn't do her hair again, just on general principle. If she calls you with an apology take it from there and proceed with caution, I don't trust those types.
Posted 09 October 2007 - 11:04 AM
She obviously doesn't value your friendship as much as you do, which is balls...
I think if it was me in your situation I'd probably call her back and ask for the money again, and if she makes an excuse I'd probably ream her out (using several choice words), hang up, unplug the phone so she can't call back (not that she probably would anyway...but just be safe) and then cut my losses.
But don't listen to me, things like that are probably the reason why I don't have many friends heh
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