I could use some advice for a dilemma we are currently having. For our wedding we only gave plus 1s to certain people: wedding party members (though the two that got plus 1s have been in a long term relationship anyways) and anyone who doesn't know anyone else in attendance (these people have all decided to come solo anyways). For those guests that know several people attending, whether they be friends or family, we did not give a plus 1 to.
Our main reason for doing this is because we want our wedding to be an intimate affair with close family and friends. We're also on a tight budget and can't afford to pay for every guest to have a plus one.
Recently we've had several people ask if they can bring dates. I'm leaning towards no, for the reasons described above. If all of the people that asked if they can bring dates to the wedding were allowed to, then 1/3 of the people attending would be "dates" (some guests want to bring friends, not partners) and we have never met any of these people before. So 1/3 of our wedding would be random people.
The only compromise I see is allowing people to bring dates to the resort, but not the wedding. The resort is public so I can't very well say that people aren't allowed to go there. I feel like that would make us look rude though when those extra people get left behind at the resort on the wedding day.
So what should we do? Stick to our guns and say no to dates? Allow dates to come to the resort but not wedding? Just allow these random people to come to the wedding anyways?
I should note that the people that are asking if they can bring dates were going to be sharing a room at the resort with another guest, so they are paying the same amount for a room whether they share with a guest or share with their date.
Thanks everyone!! I'd love to hear your opinions.