I know. I originally thought, since there are no blood tests/translations it would be just as easy and you wouldn't have two dates, plus we are having an at home reception. (not that you have a special date for that). At the resort we chose...it is $300 for the legal ceremony, and $150 for the symbolic ceremony. I figure...thats $150 more that I can use torwaruallds decor or something else. I'm on the fence still...but the more I read about it the more I'm thinking it would be just as easy to get married here first. I'm afraid if we told anyone, however, his parents would throw a fit. They are already causing drama about this whole wedding and the fact that we are leaving the country for it. I'm trying not to let them stress me out!!
Yeah see I know I would end up saying something to my mom - actually I think I already did tell her we were thinking about doing it.... she didn't really say anything one way or the other but I don't know if everyone would be so okay with it.. I dont want anyone to feel like "this isn't a wedding" I am also having an AHR
I totally understand the idea of using the money for other things though. For me.. with all the inclusions I am getting (that would not be included if I did a "vow renewal") it pretty much breaks even so that didn't sway my decision but if that wasn't the case I might have a different feeling on it.
I actually thought my FI might want to do the at home thing first but when I ran it by him he said "why would we do that - lets get married at our wedding!?" hahah sooooo I agreed
it is a tough call - part of me also thought it might be fun to have a secret fun special day that only we knew about! You will figure it out and go with your heart!