Originally Posted by MissJali
So apparently it is still asshole wedding guests week. Question: is it true that usually people who have engagement parties don't have bridal showers? Is this a rule I'm unaware of? So here goes my cousin asking me if im having a bridal shower and i just said im not sure, and he hits me with this. Right because men know so much?? I don't get what an engagement party would have to do with a bridal shower. Am I bugging?
I have never heard of this. I didn't have an engagement party but if I had it woud've just been an occasion to celebrate and if someone wanted to bring a gift that is their decision. Gifts are the norm at showers and as my Mom told me this weekend when I started my registry, they are "to start your life together". I feel strange having a shower but my Mom insists and like she says if people don't want to come they don't have to and if they do, they don't have to bring you a gift.
My point is no matter how many parties you have I'm sure you're not coercing your guests to give you gifts, can't people just be happy and celebrate for one another without thinking someone has a selfish ulterior motive???