We are getting this as well and we picked a DW for a lot of the reasons mentioned. My Fi's and his family is from New Zealand, my family is from the Chicago area and we are moving to the Bay Area in less than 2 months. We have friends scattered all over the world as well.
I don't want to plan a big traditional wedding in Chicago from San Francisco. I don't want to plan a traditional wedding in San Francisco, especially being new to the area. We don't even want a big traditional wedding. We wanted something fun, low-key and casual with our family and friends. Because of this, we picked a DW. This way it is equal opportunity travel and there is no perception of geographical favoritism. We picked a neutral place to where everyone has to travel since we are inviting people from all over.
We haven't sent the invites out yet, that is happening within the next few weeks. I have some friends who are proactively reaching out regarding pricing, TA info, how to book, etc. And others I am getting I get the "oh, it's not convenient for me", or "isn't Mexico unsafe and we would get shot or killed?", and other variations of this. Why would I pick somewhere to get married where I would willingly put people in harms way?
I find it sad that my mom hasn't even put a deposit on the room and I am getting feedback that my step-dad won't attend. Seriously? He has been a part of my life for over 20 years and he won't attend because "he doesn't like Mexico". At Christmas dinner, I was getting lots of comments about the decision to have a DW from people who I am inviting but don't expect to attend.
Fi's mom already has her air booked from NZ and it is a heck of a lot more than what it will cost for 2 people to fly from Chicago. My mom is complaining about the fares, the rates, everything.
This is even before the invites have been sent!!!
So, I am at the point that whoever attends, attends. We will have fun celebrating with those who do show up and celebrate our marriage. Fi reminds me that its about us all the time, especially when I start stressing.
Fi: "are you going to be there?
Fi: "well,I am going to be there, that is all we need"