To Invite...or Not Invite? Advice needed!!! :)

[dallace]

I completely agree with the other ladies! Granted you COULD suck it up for the big day, but the problem is it's not just one day it's a whole week - your wedding week at that. (which should be the week of your life, if I may add!!!) I should probably just bite my tongue on this one but if she's generally an attention seeker than she's going to be jelous that you and your man are getting all the attention so she may try and steal the spotlight....if you know what I mean (that sounded worse than what I meant....) For some people that wouldn't be a big deal, but when she already irritates you than it's just going to make it worse, and in turn you wont be enjoying yourself to the fullest - which you completely deserve! By the sounds of it your FI at one point was close with this person but that is no longer the case, seeing that you only see her and her husband once a year it really shouldn't be a huge problem she doesn't attend the wedding. Not to mention that if she was unpleasant to you and your family in the past than she shouldn't be there as far as I'm concerned. This is a time to bring your two families together, not make them uncomfortable because of a rotten egg hanging around. Maybe I'm just being harsh but I don't have any sympathy for people like that.

 

The guestlist is definately a touchy subject though!!! LOL Luckily my FI really doesn't care who comes as long as we have a good time and there's NO drama! Which should be interesting since his family isn't a fan of my family (or me for that matter...) - we will be having a chat with them before we go about there "I'm better than you attitude" and hopefully things will work out!

[LTLFAITHY]

Originally Posted by dallace 

 

I completely agree with the other ladies! Granted you COULD suck it up for the big day, but the problem is it's not just one day it's a whole week - your wedding week at that. 

 

I think you make an excellent point here. If it was a "regular" at home ceremony and reception it would be easy to just ignore this person ~ it's hard enough to see all the people you want to see during the traditional 6 hour weddings. But because destination weddings obviously provide a lot more time for the bride and groom to actually see their guests (which generally speaking, I think is a huge positive), in this situation it also provides a lot more time where you might have to interact with this person. That being said, it sounds like these negative feelings toward one another are mutual, so maybe there is a good chance that she would decide not to come??