Originally Posted by Dazeydawl
Wow!!! It seems we all have these people in our lives!!!! I have a 'friend' who i asked to be my bridesmaid when i first got engaged back in Jan 2012 who was all for the role and the trip.... i knew it might be difficult on her considering she just had a baby and was off on mat leave and her boyfriend didnt have a job so i offered to put down the deposit for her which was fine. when we went bridemaid dress shopping she had everything worked out, who would look after the baby, the fact that she would be back to work well before the trip and her boyfriend got a good job so money wouldnt be an issue, then a couple days later when it came time to purchase the dresses she said she wasnt coming!!!! my jaw dropped! She also didnt think she should have to pay me back for teh deposit on the room! She said it was because of money.... which i dont want to argue with. Only now they are starting a whole bunch of renos on their house and she just told me they are planning a trip to toronto for the same time as my wedding! I know toronto isnt as expensive but still last minute planning to toronto just 7 months out or planning to jamaica a year and 4 months out? seems she should have been able to make it work... she just doesnt want to. Then she goes on to say that she will still help with anything i need here at home, but now shes always too busy to talk to me.
There comes a certain point in any relationship, friends/family/intimate, where you have to ask yourself why keep giving 100% if the other person only gives less than half and is always making excuses. You can only pour so much of your heart and soul into these deadend friendships. Sorry for the hurtfullness she caused you but it sounds like you have lots more loving friends and family!!