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#21 ntlsnow

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    Posted 13 March 2012 - 10:45 AM


    Jamie, I truly hope some of your friends come around! How awful of them to do that. I don't understand people sometimes.
     

    Originally Posted by Jamie5280 

    It's just unbelievable to me that I don't have one friend coming after everything I have done for them (been in their weddings, one was destination, bridal showers, bach. parties, baby showers, etc...)  It's just so hurtful that now that it's my turn no one is there for me!  Planning for my wedding has opened my eyes WIDE to who is a good friend and who isn't!  and sadly, I learned I don't have any good friends, just a lot of acquaintances!  I too, offered to help pay for 3 of my friends rooms and they all still seem to not be able to afford it!  :(  Not to mention those 3 friends just looked into it, but didn't 8 months ago! 

     

    For me, there has been no way to help me prepare for the serious let down I have encountered!  I hope that your friends do not do the same thing and that they come and have a great time with you guys!
     

    Thanks for letting me vent too!!!  :)



     



     



    #22 principessa

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      Posted 14 March 2012 - 07:26 AM

      I'm so glad to feel that I'm not alone!  So sorry you girls are going through similar problems though :( I have one friend coming to the wedding (my best friend, MOH) - no other friends, and no family (other than my parents).  It's very hurtful for various reasons.  First of all, I understand that a lot of people aren't able to make it, and due to money problems, etc.  But several members of my family are travelling for spring break, and even one person is planning to travel to Europe the month of our wedding!  Are you telling me these people couldn't have saved up and spent that money towards our wedding?  I'm very hurt that I won't have ONE person from my family that wants to spend that time with me and see me get married.  All the people who promised they are coming, are now backing out. 

       

      But in the end I'm trying to keep  my mind on those people who ARE coming and how it's going to be a great day no matter WHAT. 



      #23 ntlsnow

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        Posted 14 March 2012 - 07:45 AM

        I try to tell myself...we are doing this for US (my FI an I)...it may hurt but in the end the most important people are him and I. It's hard to not have specific close people with me at mine, it really is. Like another poster said...focus on the people that are coming and do care.

         

        But...I like having this thread to vent about the people that upset me. Once people start not booking I am sure I will be back here ladies. Sigh...I think a DW can be more stressful...

         

         



        #24 monicak

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          Posted 14 March 2012 - 08:42 AM

          Hang in there future brides!  Once you get dropped off at your resort, NONE of this will matter.  The people who make it out there will have a blast and so will you!  I had people avoid me, tell me they are so broke that their electricity gets shut off (yah right).  Their behavior was baffling, I just chaulked it up to "I will save a ton of money not killing myself to attend of their future events."  I still look back and have a smile on my face when I think of my wedding in July, and so will you!

           



          #25 SparksFly

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            Posted 14 March 2012 - 11:03 AM



            Originally Posted by monicak 

            Hang in there future brides!  Once you get dropped off at your resort, NONE of this will matter.  The people who make it out there will have a blast and so will you!  I had people avoid me, tell me they are so broke that their electricity gets shut off (yah right).  Their behavior was baffling, I just chaulked it up to "I will save a ton of money not killing myself to attend of their future events."  I still look back and have a smile on my face when I think of my wedding in July, and so will you!

             



             I just got an RSVP from my "friend" who was in DC last weekend...and did not call me. Just as I suspected, a decline RSVP. I am bummed, but I assume I will be invited to her wedding a few weeks later? I would still like to go if possible, or if invited. Is that pathetic of me?



            #26 ntlsnow

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              Posted 15 March 2012 - 04:35 AM

              No, you are just the better person! :-)

               

              Originally Posted by SparksFly 



               I just got an RSVP from my "friend" who was in DC last weekend...and did not call me. Just as I suspected, a decline RSVP. I am bummed, but I assume I will be invited to her wedding a few weeks later? I would still like to go if possible, or if invited. Is that pathetic of me?



               



              #27 monicak

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                Posted 15 March 2012 - 07:41 AM

                If it's local and you genuinely want to go - go!  But if you aren't up for it or make other plans, don't stress about it.



                #28 bgarcia1026

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                  Posted 19 March 2012 - 06:44 AM

                  It's funny, My FI, my future MIL and I were talking about this just last night, as we are still trying to pick a venue that is affordable for our guests and has everything we want.  At what point do you stop sacrificing the things you want for your wedding, just so that certain people will "try and make it"?

                   

                  I guess after talking about it back and forth, my FI made a good point.  If we send out the save the dates in June of this year for our wedding next year, our guests can start putting aside $100-150 a month for their trip.  If that doesn't happen then, then I guess its on them.  They have more than enough time to save.  If I just have our family and our wedding party then I would be happy, anyone else that can come is an added bonus .

                   

                  Cheer up ladies, everything will work out in the end!



                  #29 bgarcia1026

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                    Posted 19 March 2012 - 06:45 AM



                    I think you hit the nail on the head.  As long as you and your FI are happy, what else matters?
                     

                    Originally Posted by monicak 

                    Hang in there future brides!  Once you get dropped off at your resort, NONE of this will matter.  The people who make it out there will have a blast and so will you!  I had people avoid me, tell me they are so broke that their electricity gets shut off (yah right).  Their behavior was baffling, I just chaulked it up to "I will save a ton of money not killing myself to attend of their future events."  I still look back and have a smile on my face when I think of my wedding in July, and so will you!

                     



                     



                    #30 principessa

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                      Posted 19 March 2012 - 07:04 AM

                      So true!  Guests know far enough in advance they can start saving if they truly want to be there.  And really, this is your wedding - you can't be making decisions for everyone else.  In the end, you can't make everyone else happy anyway.  You don't want any regrets for your wedding :)

                       

                      Originally Posted by bgarcia1026 

                      It's funny, My FI, my future MIL and I were talking about this just last night, as we are still trying to pick a venue that is affordable for our guests and has everything we want.  At what point do you stop sacrificing the things you want for your wedding, just so that certain people will "try and make it"?

                       

                      I guess after talking about it back and forth, my FI made a good point.  If we send out the save the dates in June of this year for our wedding next year, our guests can start putting aside $100-150 a month for their trip.  If that doesn't happen then, then I guess its on them.  They have more than enough time to save.  If I just have our family and our wedding party then I would be happy, anyone else that can come is an added bonus .

                       

                      Cheer up ladies, everything will work out in the end!



                       






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