I'm at the Suites but will be doing a regular dinner, not private. I don't have enough people for a private one anyway (between 10 and 15 guests). I'm not too concerned about it. I'd rather have the money to put elsewhere... like the photographer!
The contract they sent me this week definitely says 1 night stay for an external photographer. I hope my TA can help me book that at the lowest rate possible. It's really a bummer, but I really hope that there won't be a vendor fee on top of that or anything like that. I'm willing to do what it takes to have a decent photographer at my wedding but I know I'll have to cut some other "nice to haves" to make that happen.