That sucks....it's unfortunate that some people can be so inconsiderate....clearly her 'filter' is clogged!!!
I am having a similar issue, sort of...I didn't lose anyone liek yourself but as far as the friend situation goes, my long-time best friend was already going to be in Mexico when I decided to get married so I planned the wedding thinking it couldn't be more convenient for her.....well....not only did she respectfully decline my MOH offer....(there is no emoticon to describe that feeling) , her excues was that she didn't know if she would have the time to be able to commit to that kind of 'job'; she then said she would stay at the hotel for 3 days so she could at least spend some time with me before the wedding and of course the wedding day......she called me yesterday to tell me she wasn't going to stay there anymore, and 'are you mad at me?' !!! My response was simply 'you do what you have to, I am okay with whatever you decide'.....I wasn't....I hung up and cried my eyes out....I woke up this morning realizing, I can only let the actions of other people affect me how I allow it to affect me...I have become more at peace with what happened, and now I AM okay. The only people I really want there without a doubt are my family, our son (he's 2 and soo cute), and FI!!
I hope this helps..but we're all here if you need more ears (or eyes rather)!!
BTW to add iinsult to injury we had 10 ppl cancel just before final payment....most for good reasons so no hard feelings....it's not about numbers right????